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of urinating on their partners.
8) Being accused of doing something malicious, sick or deviant.
9) Being told they require surgery for urinary complications.
10) Being told that they should seek psychotherapy.
11) Being made fun of and/or scrutinized from friends and/or lovers after divulging their “secret.”
12) Being told that there is only one way to achieve this type of orgasm i.e.– g-spot stimulation and
feeling odd for doing it other using other stimulation i.e-clitoral, etc.
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Examples of challenges with women who do not it~


1) Being pressured by a partner to achieve this without knowing how to do it.
2) Feeling inadequate sexually (as though a sexual disappointment to their partner).
3) Being confused about how this happens and wondering if they are even capable.
4) Becoming resentful of women who do it, saying critical statements of those who do.
5) Fearing that it will hurt or cause a problem with their physical functioning should they try it.
6) Feeling sexually uneducated naïve and confused about their own sexual functioning.

Men’s Struggles~

Like women, men have had to endure this negative social stigma that has been
present in our culture. Listed below are a few of such examples-

Examples of challenges for men when their female partner does it~

1) Feeling surprised when a woman experiences this, and being confused about what just occurred.
2) Thinking that their female partner has done something vindictive to them.
3) Feeling ashamed if their partner does it, as they may think that their partner is dysfunctional
or unhealthy.
4) Feeling that they want to refrain from sexual activity for fear that it may occur and cause conflict.
5) Disliking the “deviant” association with it.
6) Thinking that their female partner urinated on them.

Examples of challenges for men when their female partner does not do it~

1) Feeling ashamed for having fantasies about wanting this and thinking it deviant and unhealthy.
2) Being accused of “making up” female ejaculation.
3) Feeling inadequate if they are unable to make a woman gush cum.
4) Feelings of guilt for wishing that their partner could do this and are worried that their partner cannot (or
that they won’t be able to help their partner do it).
5) Feeling that a sexual desire of theirs is going unfulfilled.
6) Feeling sexually deviant and “immoral” for being attracted to female ejaculation.
7) Being worried about bringing it up with their partner for fear of insulting them or creating conflict.

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Challenges With Exploring Women’s Sexuality

Any woman can learn and enjoy ejaculating, as well as enjoy sex in general, however it is important that
she accept (or learn how to accept) her body, and bodily fluids. The body’s sexual fluids are beautiful,
natural and should be embraced. In our “warped” society, sometimes it has been seen as unfeminine to
do things as normal as sweating. I truly believe that it is time to understand that a truly beautiful and
powerful woman gets messy! It is time that we all work on accepting that being feminine means
embracing our sexuality, our bodies, and most certainly our bodily fluids.

We chicks are human, so okay… sometimes we don’t always have the
sweetest scent, or the most graceful natures, but isn’t that part of letting
ourselves be who we are? Sweat, vaginal lubrication, menses, ejaculate,
salvia, urine and other bodily fluids are not only practical and serve a
purpose, but are most definitely a part of the reality of our beautiful bodies.

Lots of men get the idea that they are sexually powerful when they can produce large quantities of semen
or shoot cum a long distance. Men ejaculating on the face, in the mouth, and on and in the body of their
partner are seen as sexy, and let me say that we chicks can indulge in all of the sexy stylings of such
activity too!

When a woman or her lover cannot embrace her body or the fluids within
(some just begging to be released!) ☺ she will most certainly have
problems in allowing her self to ejaculate, let alone enjoy sexual activity
fully. In order to experience those oh so wonderful earth-shattering
orgasms, ya gotta give yourself permission to let the goddess inside “cum”
out! So go… get