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of infinite possibility. If you can find this seed and nurture it
somehow, what all the great philosophies refer to as a catharsis will occur in your life. A
monumental change which walls off all possibility of going back to the way that you
used to be. This process is accessible to anyone interested in taking up the personal
challenge of living Life to its fullest expression. No going to the mountain required.
Just simple old Knowledge is all that's necessary.
I know a man who was out of touch...
And he'd hide in a house and he didn't say much...
Dee da lee dee dee -- dee dee, dee dee -- dee da lee do...
Crunchy Granola Suite
Neil Diamond, 1972
I remember being 18 years old up in my room listening to heart-wrenching songs
from Neil Diamond's Love at the Greek album. Yeah, I know I'm dating myself as an old
fart for a lot of you guys. If I am, then you can substitute your own sad songs... I'm sure
they're similar. My story of growing up with the forlorn frustration of not being able to
connect with the opposite sex is one for the ages. It never changes, generation to
generation. All our experiences are just as relevant despite the passage of time and style
and fashion, because the issues that lie beneath them are universal and eternal. Some of
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us guys are just flat out no damn good at the most important game that we'll ever be
called to play.
The game of seduction.
To some degree we are all awkward when those funny urges first begin to grab
hold of us in our early teens, when we start looking at the girl down the street, our
teacher, and even our sister (yuk!) in a way that we never had before. It isn't long before
we begin to experience the massive discontinuity between our bursting sexual maturity
and our social awkwardness. Our bodies lurch out ahead of our minds.
Suddenly, you’re supposed to switch gears in mid-childhood and go from being a
kid to young adult -- instantly knowing how to charm these... girls (who you didn't even
want on your team last year!) and somehow get them to do something that... I don't know,
everyone expects you to somehow know how to do. And if you don't somehow
magically know what that something is, well then you're just a fucking nerd, and now
you’ve become the focus of endless scorn from all your buddies (who are equally as
clueless but need an easy target to keep the bullets away from them). And to make
matters even worse, everyone knows the one dude
who seems to have figured it out all
on his own (by sheer accident it usually turns out) and is making time with every girl in
the neighborhood. Dare you admit that he has a secret power to meet women that you
don't? I could be just like him and get girls too, if I wanted to. Right.
Okay so we were just kids then, stupid kids, so what? Well, it begins to matter a
lot a few years later when every one of your friends fumbles and feels his way into some
kind of relationship, but you're still left standing out in the cold. Soon, panic starts to set
in. What the hell is wrong with me?... you begin to think. Why is it that everyone else
seems to be able to figure out how this making out thing works, and I still can't get the
courage up to even ask one girl out on a damn date?
And like a man with a tiger outside his gate,
Not only couldn't relax but he couldn't relate...
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Your social ineptitude begins to become a real stone in your shoe, an obsession.
There must be a way to overcome this fear of being rejected so that you can "become
normal" like everyone else. But it isn't easy. Like quicksand, your fear draws you down
ever deeper the more you struggle against it. Why? Because it isn't the mere fear of
interacting with women that you have... something which can be