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sorts of questions:)
The number one rule of fluff talk is - direct the conversation towards a\
nd talk
about FEELINGS. What fluff talk usually ends up being is an exchange of
facts - "where ya goin?", "whatcha doin?", "what did you do
today/yesterday?", "oh that's interesting". Facts are a BORE! Giving you\
her
facts makes her feel NOTHING. Neither has she any use for the facts you
are giving her. So grab any opportunity you have to get to feelings!
"So what did you do yesterday?"
"Oh I went skating"
"You like skating?"
"Yes:)"
"Makes you feel good?:)"
"Yeah:)"
"I know what you mean..."
And you go on to describe skating as the most liberating, beautiful,
earth-shattering experience (that's what making up patterns on the fly \
is all
about:). Or have her describe you her feelings herself, if she is a tal\
ker.
Voila - you've switched from fluff talk to patterning in a blink of an e\
ye:)
She feels enthralled. But you don't know how to follow up on that. So le\
t the
the fluff talk continue.
"So... em... have you eaten anything today?"
"Yea, some sandwitches in the morning. Why?"
"Well I was just hoping to pick up on some tips on how to have a delicio\
us
breakfast without having to spend too much time making it:) So you like\
sandwitches?"
"Um... not really:) I just don't have time for much anything else:)"
"But if you did, let's say you had your own personal cook, what would yo\
u
like to start your morning with?"
"Oh, well (salivating:), fried eggs and bacon, and a large cup of hot
chocolate, and some marmalade (etc, let her describe it to her heart's
content:)"
"Ah, that would really feel good wouldn´t it? Still lazily laying in \
your bed, to
have all that delicious food brought to you on a silver tray - you take \
a sip of
cocoa and can feel the pleasant warmth of it spreading thorughout your
body, which after a good-night's sleep is more fresh and receptive to th\
e
pleasentness of that feeling than usual, and you take a taste of marmala\
de
and can feel it melting in your mouth and the sweetness of it waking you\
up
for yet another wondeful day (etc, now make good use of all the food sh\
e
HERSELF told you she likes:)"
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Once again - fluff talk to pattern talk in no time:)
So the ability to fluff talk is essential, but not any kind of fluff tal\
k will do. She
can exchange facts with a million guys and not feel a thing. Or, she can\
give
her facts to you and get a wonderful return on it:) But remember -
FEELINGS:)
Update. "So, what's *your* story?"
A less feelings oriented and a more free-flowing approach to fluff-talk.\
By
James L. King III, ASF:
""So, what's *your* story?" - this is wonderful question that will get t\
he other
party talking. It's a good intro, or it can be used right after an openi\
ng line.
I've used it several times to great effect, as the line usually gets wom\
en
talking about how they got to the party, or what they do for a living, o\
r about
how they know the host, or why they chose to strip for a living. I learn\
a lot
by paying attention to the subject matter of their answer. If it's about\
what
they do for a living, then you know that's something important to them .\
..
rapport material handed on a platter. If the woman doesn't mind sharing
personal things about herself with you, this opening gives her the perfe\
ct
opportunity, while at the same time allowing those women who are more
reserved a chance to come up with something more benign, like "I'm a
friend of the host."
If they respond by not answering or looking dazed and confused or by
saying that question makes them uncomfortable, I move on to someone
else. People like that are no fun anyway, no matter how beautiful they m\
ay
appear.
Always be prepared to mirror the statements they give you ... if they re\
veal
something personal about themselves, you can reveal something that's
personal to you .. perhaps not the same thing, but something similar. Th\
is
will feed the rapport between you as a relationship begins to develop. (\
This
is also a good time to start your patterning language, if you don't do i\
t
naturally and turn it on or off as needed.)
Also, if things aren't progressing so well with one person, remember tha\
t
mingling means moving around ... don't stay with one person so long,
otherwise you're not mingling. You can always return later.
You can use the "story" approach not only with the person, but with
accessories or special clothing the woman is wearing: examining a beauti\
ful
necklace, you can ask "so, what's the story behind the necklace?"
The story approach doesn't work with un-special clothing: "So, what's th\
e
story behind those Levi's?" doesn't work as well as "So, what's the stor\
y
behind that gorgeous hand-knit scarf?""
Don'ts of Fluff Talk
(Originated by Don Diebel)
Do not talk about any of your personal (family,
work, money) problems.
l
Don't act desperate.l
Don't talk about anything negative at all. Keep
everything