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this: "What will you
choose if you learn to transform orgasmic energy into an unlimited timeless
whole body-mind-spirit altered state that feels so much better and reaches so
much higher than a few seconds of release?"

Yes, sir, you've jumped on a train whose destination is continuous ecstatic
feelings that are better than a quick flash in the pan. But don't worry about
that now. When you arrive at that exalted station, you'll be able to decide what
you want to do.

1.3 Cuming Quickly Is Common and Curable
As I mentioned already, cuming quickly doesn't mean that you're broken. In
fact, it's more common than you might think. It's just not the kind of thing
most guys discuss over a cold one, is it?

Only 2 Minutes?
According to some estimates, about 30 percent of American men reach orgasm
earlier than they'd like. Alfred Kinsey, one of the earliest well-known sex
researchers, found that 75% of the men he tested ejaculated within two
minutes of vaginal entry. That sounds pretty quick, but I've beat that record.
Yeah, once when I was learning to put a condom on....oh, forget it, you
probably don't want to hear about that kind of sob story.

As Shama tells clients... "My first response is to assure men that there's
nothing 'wrong' with them organically. They need to hear that their sexual

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habits are a natural product of the way they have 'not been taught' to
experience their sexuality. It is merely education and practicing new habits
that can transform their sexual experience."

I read one astrological study that says cuming quickly is a characteristic of
some Sun signs. Lucky me, I'm a Sagittarius. If I believe it, that means that
I'll always ejaculate too soon because the stars made me that way. Sorry, I just
don't buy these explanations that convince us we're stuck the way we are. And
I don't want you to accept any excuse that says you'll never learn to be a long-
lasting lover. This book is a proven process for changing all of that, no matter
when you were born, to what parents, with what genes. Yes, the Ultimate
Ecstatic Solution is an equal opportunity employer.

By the way, sex therapists officially call this condition "involuntary ejaculation"
to better describe what happens when the timing of your ejaculation is different
than your partners. Actually, this whole predicament is simply a little gap in
your learning, not a physical disability. Researchers have shown that it's 90 to
95% curable. Lasting longer is very possible to learn, you just have to want to.
You do, don't you? You simply need to spend some time reprogramming
yourself and developing some new skills.

What Women Really Want
Shama says "Men overlook signals leading to ejaculating because they've been
conditioned to believe that women desire constant, hard, and fast lovemaking
which defines you as a real man." We're gonna try to change your mind about
that. I haven't done a scientific study (yet) but my experience proves most
women want something more Tantric. That means slow, sensuous, and from
the heart as well.

And while we're on the subject of timing, you're well aware that it takes two to
Tango, right? That reminds me of a girlfriend I had when I was in my 20s. At
that time, like most men, I was much more excitable than I am now. One night
we counted while we were making love. She had 10 orgasms in half-an-hour.
Native Americans call this a "deer woman." I guess because she was very fast.

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Now you realize, this is the same guy (me) whose previous wife didn't have
vaginal orgasms, no matter what we did. Sure, I felt it was my problem, but in
retrospect I did everything I could. In reality, it wasn't my fault, just like your
timing problem may not be all your fault. Many women (I've read estimates up
to 75%) don't have orgasms through intercourse. So if you're driving yourself
crazy trying to do the impossible, lighten up! I'm not trying to talk you out of
learning the skills in the book to better enjoy intercourse. I'm just trying to
inject a little reality. If you learn to make love for hours, some women may love
it but never have the kind of explosion some guys seem to crave. Just accept
the fact, OK?

I know some women measure their sexiness and self-worth by their ability to
make a man cum.