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it. It gives you the opportunity you need to win her over.
But being neutral simply isn’t enough, you must also be engaging.
Otherwise you run the risk of making the girl bored and having her walk
away looking for something more interesting to partake in. This brings us
back to our good friend, the Opener.
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Types of Openers
There are many different kinds of Openers out there. Technically, the first
thing you say to ANYBODY, no matter what it is, can be an Opener. But
the purpose of an Opener is to be engaging. So in that respect, there are a
few categories of Openers that will always be engaging to your target.
They are:
• Advice Openers
• Compliment Openers
• Direct Openers
• Drama Openers
• Insult Openers
• Joke Openers
• Online Openers
• Opinion Openers
• Role-play Openers
• Situational Openers

Throughout the course of this book, I’ll break these Openers down for
you, define them, give you examples of them, and even show you the
structure of each Opener so you’ll know how to construct your own.
But there’s more to each Opener than just lumping them into categories.
Indeed, it can be quite involved. There are four other things you need to
keep in mind other than just what Opener you are going to use. These four
things are: Intruders, Timing, Tonality, and Body Language.
So before we get to the meat of what this book is about, we’ll touch on
these four things which are meant to help make your chosen Opener as
effective as possible.
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Intruders
As people go about their daily lives, they exist within a personal bubble
they create for themselves. This bubble not only encompasses everything
they know to be true in life, but also everything they feel they have to do.
When you’re driving down the street and see other cars on the road, the
people in those cars have a destination they have to get to, and they are
consumed with getting to that destination. When you see someone
pushing around a cart in a grocery store, they are consumed with getting
the items they need.
In short, everyone exists in their own personal bubble. And that bubble
does not include you.
So if your goal is to approach someone, you’re going to have to infiltrate
that bubble they erect around themselves. This is as simple as using verbal
exclamations that will grab someone’s attention and admit you into their
bubble. I call these exclamations “Intruders,” because when you use them,
they allow you intrude upon these personal bubbles.
Four examples of intruders are:
• Hi
• Hey
• Yo
• Stop

We use these words every day, instinctually, when interacting with people.
These four simple words allow us to easily enter people’s personal
bubbles and begin interacting with them. But they all have their place
when interacting with someone, and knowing which ones are most
effective in certain situations is crucial to being able to approach anyone,
anytime, anywhere you may be.
For instance, the Intruder “Hi.” “Hi” is good for almost any situation. It
works best in low key atmospheres like dinner parties. But “Hi” is best
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used after eye contact with your target is established. Saying “Hi” before
you’ve gotten eye contact has a good possibility of putting your target on
guard. By the same token, “Hi” is not a powerful Intruder. You can’t call it
out forcefully when you see someone walking ahead of you on the
sidewalk that you want to meet. It comes off as socially awkward. “Hi” is
also rather impersonal and even a bit formal. Sometimes you can use the
proper form of “Hi,” that being “Hello,” if the situation calls for it and you
deliver it right.
The Intruder “Hey,” is much more versatile. “Hey” can be used in pretty
much any situation you may find yourself in, and it does not require eye
contact to Intrude on your target’s personal bubble. The reason for this is
that the word “Hi” imposes you on your target, whereas the word “Hey”
engages your target and prompts them to interact with you. “Hey” can be
used in a low key way, such as “Hey there,” or it can be used forcefully as
a powerful Intruder, such as “HEY!” Also, “Hey” can be used
interchangeably with “Hi,” and is much less of a formal greeting.
“Yo” is the opposite of the formal “Hi” and the neutral “Hey.” It is
completely informal,