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signals “Telegraphing Interest.”
Telegraphing Interest is not a good thing to do when you are approaching
a woman for the first time. Now, obviously, whenever a man approaches a
woman, she knows what’s up. Most girls are very savvy to the fact that the
reason men approach women at all is because they are sexually attracted to
them. But by Telegraphing Interest, you are making it obvious to her
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conscious mind what your intentions are, and this will put her on guard.
Basically, any sign of interest early on will make your seduction down the
road harder than it needs to be, because it raises the girl’s value and her
power in the interaction you’ll be having with her.
So what’s a guy to do? Basically, in order to combat this, you have to shift
gears a bit and start Telegraphing DISinterest. When you approach a girl
for the first time, your goal should be to display as few of the signs that
you’re interested in her as possible. You can do this by utilizing the
concept of “active disinterest.”
Now, those two words may seem rather paradoxical when matched
together, but trust me, it’ll make sense. There is an important reason why
those two words should be paired up. I’ll explain it to you by first
illustrating its opposite.
Let me give you an example of what I’m talking about: Have you ever
been out and about, maybe in a bar or a club, and you see a beautiful
woman. And after spotting said woman, you simply stand there, waiting
for her to notice you and approach you? So you sit around trying to act
cool, acting like you don’t see her, projecting a confident, macho attitude
which you hope is magnetic enough to get her attention?
Now, ask yourself how often that works.
I’m willing to bet the answer is “Hardly ever,” if at all. What I just
described to you is an example of “inactive disinterest.” Inactive
Disinterest is a way of pretending you’re not interested in someone
without doing anything to draw attention to the fact that you’re not
interested in them. In short, your target is not aware you feel ANYTHING
for them. Rather, the distinction that you’re “disinterested” in your target is
only apparent in your mind.
The opposite of this is when you actually take the action necessary to
become noticed by the woman, while still portraying that disinterested
attitude. Hence -- “active disinterest.” This is where you will approach a
girl, and open her, without telegraphing any interest at all. Why is this
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effective? Especially since we already established that most women know
that the man is interested if he approaches in the first place? Simple. It’s
because the active disinterest goes CONTRARY to that initial suspicion
by the woman that the guy is there to hit on her. In short: You are sending
mixed signals.
But why act disinterested at all? Why hide your intentions? Obviously,
you’re attracted to the girl, otherwise you wouldn’t be bothering to
approach her. But put yourself in their position for a moment…
Imagine going through your average day, and being approached by a
number of people who compliment you on your looks, your clothing, or
an accessory of some sort, all because they want something from you.
Kind of cheapens those compliments, doesn’t it? Especially when the
seventh person of the day comes up and tells you how cool your purse is.
This is the reality of women, especially beautiful women. Women know
men want to have sex with them. They get untold offers every day to have
sex. Guy after guy will approach with that exact goal in mind. So girls,
naturally, become accustomed to rejecting advances that telegraph intent,
much the same way you might respond to a vagrant asking for change as
you walk to work. You know what he is going to ask and you are prepared
not to give it to him.
When you approach a woman and say “Hey baby, lookin’ good tonight,”
you are telegraphing interest in an aggressive manor. By the same token,
when you sheepishly approach and say “Hello. May I please buy you a
drink?” you are not only telegraphing interest, but also doing so in a very
wimpy way.
But when you enter with disinterest, you are neutral. You do not telegraph
interest while neither coming off aggressive nor coming off wimpy. You
are simply “Neutral.”
This neutrality is important, because it gives you the widest possible palate
from which to paint the rest of your interaction with the woman you are
talking to. She suspects you’re interested in her, but she can’t