Sexpertise - Secrets Of Total Satisfaction | Page 7

and the feeling then becomes pleasurable.
On the other hand, don't keep touching or rubbing if it is not
feeling good to her. She doesn't have to like it. There is nothing to
prove in good sex, just endless possibilities for enjoyment. If the G
spot doesn't work for her, then move on.
Breasts. The breasts and nipples receive mixed reviews. Many
women respond to erotic attentions to the breasts and nipples, but an
equal number find that being stimulated in these areas either does not
lead to arousal or even makes them uncomfortable. Studies have
shown that although 90 percent of women say their partners like to
kiss or stroke their breasts during sex, only about 50 percent actually
enjoy it. During certain times of her menstrual cycle her breasts may
be especially tender or sensitive. Encourage her to let you know what
feels good and what doesn't.
Fingers and toes. With all the attention on the clitoris and the
G spot, men tend to forget all the other delicious areas of a woman’s
body. Fingers and toes can be very erogenous areas. When she's fresh
from the bath and lounging around in that silky robe, try nibbling or
sucking her toes while tracing circles on the arch of her foot. Or you
can stroke and nibble on her soft fingertips while gazing into her eyes.
The results may surprise both of you.
A few others to feel out. Behind her knee is a much-neglected
erotic area with soft, thin, sensitive skin that you can kiss or gently
caress. At the base of the spine, just above the crease of the buttocks,there is a small triangle called the sacrum that has been called the
"Bermuda Triangle of lust"; massage this area with your thumb. Soft
kisses at the small of the neck may get big results, as well.
His Body
We may think of the penis as an expandable, flexible rod, but
it's really wishbone-shaped. We see only the shaft portion that hangs
outside the body. The remainder is inside the abdomen, where it splits
into a Y and anchors the penis behind the pubic bone. In the shaft of
the penis are three chambers. The smaller one, on the underside of the
shaft, houses the urethra (the bladder's "drainpipe"), and the other two
are side-by-side erectile chambers of spongy tissue that fill with blood
and expand during an erection.
The main impetus for an erection occurs in the organ between
your ears-that is, your brain. If the mind likes what it's seeing,
thinking, feeling, or dreaming, the penis stands at attention. If the mind
is distracted, irritated, or discouraged, the penis deflates. Boredom,
problems in the relationship, job stress-all of these things can play
havoc with your ability to rise to the occasion. Sooner or later, every
guy will have a problem getting or keeping an erection. Best thing is
not to worry about it. just relax and enjoy the cuddling and other
intimacies, and it probably won’t happen again. If the problem persists
or becomes worse, it may be medical, and you should see your doctor.
Although most guys in the locker room brag and joke, penis
size is not the key to sexual pleasure. Average length of an erect penis
is 5 3/8 inches, and about three-quarters of them range from 4 5/8 to 6
1/4 inches. Women, for the most part, couldn't care less about penis
size. But there are a few hot spots on your penis (no matter what the
length) and the rest of your body that you could ask her to pay
attention to.
Penis. The frenulum (the area underneath and just behind the
glans, or the head of the penis) is usually the most sensitive spot. The
rim of the glans, sometimes called the coronal ridge, is also highly
sensitive. The shaft of the penis and the skin of the scrotum (the sac

containing the testicles) are less sensitive than these other spots.
Testicles. Don’t forget this body part. Testicular massage can
boost your sexual energy, and it's believed to help the body produce
testosterone. You can either do this yourself or show your partner how
it's done. Firmly but gently roll the testicles between the thumb and
fingers of each hand, then hold your penis and scrotum with your
thumb and forefinger and lightly pull them forward while tightening
your pelvic muscles.
Chest. Most men (and women) feel a little funny about the
man’s breasts and nipples being stimulated during sex play, but lots of
men are sensitive there. In fact, Dr. Kinsey reported that there may be
as many males as there are females whose breasts are distinctly
sensitive.
Prostate gland. That pleasant tingling sensation you feel deep
inside your crotch during sexual excitement is your prostate gland
humming a love song. Most guys pay no attention to the prostate gland
until there is a problem or disease, but this is a very sensitive erotic
spot. This nerve-rich organ, sometimes known as the male G spot,
tingles as it secretes fluid during arousal and ejaculation. Gay men
have long known that stimulating the prostate increases sexual
pleasure, and the gland gets quite a workout during male anal sex. You
can have your partner massage your prostate