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touch over and over again, so vary the touch from the top to either
side. Encourage her to explain what feels good to her and to help you
find different ways to touch her there. When you gently tease the
clitoris as opposed to pressing firmly, she may end up trembling and
shouting out loud. Also, try tracing the alphabet with your tongue-we
bet she doesn’t make it past N or 0!

Or you can try the Venus Butterfly,
wherein you repeatedly suck your lover's clitoris
into your mouth, then expel it rapidly (two to three
times per second). Because the clitoris is so
sensitive, this is very intense for most women, and
it may be best if you alternate 10 to 15 seconds of
this motion with 10 to 15 seconds of left-toright
and up-and-down tongue flicks, as well as an
occasional figure-8 tracing of the clitoris. If it still
seems too intense for her, pause to slowly lick the
length of her labia. Ask her to tell you what works
the best.
Sometimes she may prefer to use her own
hand on her clitoris while you're busy somewhere
else. You'll never know unless you ask her.
Women enjoy masturbation as much as men do,
and they're experts on how and where to touch their bodies.
Incidentally, just before orgasm, the clitoris momentarily seems to
shrink out of sight. This can confuse men, who think it's a sign of a
sexual turnoff when it's actually a sign of intense arousal because the
hood of the clitoris is becoming engorged with blood.
Labia minora. The inner lips of the genitals are richly
supplied with nerves, especially on their secret, inner sides. In Dr.
Kinsey's famous studies of female hot spots, 98 percent of the women
could feel a touch on either the inner or the outer side of the lips. "As
sources of erotic arousal," he observed, "the labia minora seem to be
fully as important as the clitoris." The labia majora-the fleshy outer
lips-seem to be considerably less sensually sensitive.
Entrance of the vagina. This is a definite pleasure zone. Most
women find the so-called vestibule of the vagina (the funnel-shaped
area between the inner lips, just above and outside the vaginal
opening), as well as the first inch and a half of its interior, to be the
sweetest of spots. That's because these areas are richly supplied with
nerve endings. Interestingly enough, the deep inner walls of the vagina
seem numb by comparison.
When she's
fresh from
the bath and
lounging
around in
that silky
robe, try
nibbling or
sucking her
toes while
tracing
circles on the
arch of her
foot....
The results
may surprise
you both.
PLEASURE SPOTS FOR BOTH
According to ancient Chinese erotic texts, both men and
women have certain "acupoints," or spots that when stimulated cause
immediate sexual arousal, boost sexual stamina, and recharge the
autonomic nervous system that controls sexual sensations and
functions.
The "Cinnabar field" was what the Chinese called a line of
seven points from the navel to the front of the pubic bone just above
the genitals. Imagine a line between these two points, with five
additional points about equally spaced between them. Press each for 3
to 5 seconds, then press again.
There are also two pleasure points located along the crease
between the abdomen and thighs. Here are a few more that seem
pleasurable to both men and women.
Perineum. The area between the anus and the base of the
scrotum in men, or the anus and the vaginal opening in women (the
place you'd make contact with if you straddled a fence post), is highly
sensitive to touch. This rather secretive spot can be reached by direct
pressure with a finger, through the rectum or (in women) by deep
penetration of the vagina.
Earlobes. The earlobes are loaded with blood vessels and nerve
endings. Gently stroking the outer earlobe with a fingertip or
administering light tongue caresses can be quite a turn-on. Soft, warm
breaths (as long as you don't blow too hard) may also do the trick.
More to consider. The thin skin on the inner surface of the
thigh is richly endowed with nerves, and in some people stimulation of
this area makes for an especially arousing adventure. Other erogenous
zones include the throat, the armpits, the anus, the navel, the abdomen,
the toes, and who knows what else?
You get the idea. There are likely dozens of erotic zones all
over her body and yours. The fun part is exploring, nuzzling, kissing,
and caressing your way around until you identify every last one of
them.

The "G spot." Modern researchers point out, though, that
some women are wildly responsive to deep pressure (not light strokes)
applied to the roof of the vagina, several inches inside the opening-an
area that's come to be called the "G spot."
Not all women believe they have a G spot. To help her find
hers, have her lie down on her back. Insert one or two fingers into her
vagina with your palm facing the ceiling. Slightly bend your fingers
and feel along the ribbed walls of her vagina. Somewhere between her
bladder and her pelvis there should be a sort of roundish-shaped
sensitive area. The odd thing is that when you touch this area, she may
feel an urge to urinate, but most likely she won't. This sensation
passes,