ask you out. You can't knock that now can you?"\
Wait for her reply which will almost definitely be in agreeance with you\
and then say: "How about not organising anything now,
but give me your phone number and it will give you some time to think ab\
out it and me some time to plan something for us".
Now don't stand around waiting for her to give you some long winded answ\
er as to why or why not she will do this. You need to
keep your presentation going by assuming she will give her number to you\
. You must ask for her number then and there as though
you expect to get it from her. Even if you don't have a pen and paper as\
k for her number and then remember it. Ask her if it is in
the phone-book in case you forget it and then ask what it would be under\
.
You have already explained why she should give her number to you and als\
o given her the option in her mind that even if you
ring she can still say no to you. Now that you have done this you need t\
o focus on the phone number and it will take her mind
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away from a yes or no answer in regards to a date. Actually, whether she\
realises it or not, she really has just said to you she will
go out with you. She may not even realise this at the moment as you have\
given her the option that even when you ring she can
say "no", but when it comes to that, she is more or less guaranteed not \
to decline."
Refining the close
(originally suggested by Mystery) When you do the #close, don't just t\
rade numbers, accompany it with a humorous "But when I
call you, I don't want you to answer "Huh? Who? Ah… its you… ee…\
so… howzit going…", I want you to act really enthusiastic
and happy, like "Oh, you called! God I'm so glad!!", ok? Is that a deal?\
:)" This ends the close on a very light, friendly and positive
note plus automatically kick-starts the phone call on that very same not\
e:) Additionally you can end the phone call in the same
manner: "So when we meet, I want you to smile, give me a big warm friend\
ly hug and take my hand:) Deal:)?" End the phone call
and start the meeting with these and you'll have removed many an obstacl\
e from your path to being one with the girl:)
Update. A line to use when exchanging phone numbers. Mystery, Clifford's Seduc\
tion Newsletter: "Is our relationship going be
romantic? ...because... I like romance!"
Update. (Taken from "Sweep women off their feet...":) "Whether you are going\
to call her or vice versa, make sure that you set up
a date and time for the call. Don't just say that you'll get in touch so\
metime soon. Set an exact time for [calling]."
Update. Mystery, ASF: "I will suggest something to do together when I'm closin\
g. I will lead them to give me their # and during
that time suggest that the # exchange will lead to more than just the ro\
ller blading or whatever we wanted to do together.
When I call, I tell them I have some stuff to take care of and I want he\
r to keep me company - I then get some stuff done with
them and go for a quick bite and talk in the car and drop by a friends h\
ouse and do some little things. No date."
Update. Mystery and Rick, Clifford's Seduciton Newsletter:
"(when a girl is in a rush)
"I understand you're in a hurry... I'm in a hurry as well... But what a \
lot of people don't understand is that time constraints are an
illusion... I mean... you don't HAVE to leave right now... There will be\
another cab (or something else, depending on the
situation)... Let's finish this (exchange numbers).""
Update. Maxim (http://maximmag.com):
“The best thing he can do is try to make a date off of our common int\
erests. If we were talking about golf, ‘We should go to a
driving range sometime’ is a great thing to say. It’s not like the\
pressure of a date, more like you’re sports companions. If I want
to see you, I’ll pick up on your invite.
—Phoebe, 32, Westport, Conn.
Politeness is always a good thing. A simple handshake and ‘I enjoyed \
meeting you, I’d love to talk to you again,’ with a
suggestion of a specific exhibition or a show to see is great. That woul\
d make me feel like a guy has it together.
—Aimee, 26, Berkeley, Calif.
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