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The most important thing is whether you have the courage to risk
rejection. No one in his right mind likes rejection, but the truth of the
matter is that if you’re only willing to pick up a woman with absolute
certainty you’ll probably never pick up one, because we simply don’t
know whether our pick up lines or our body languages are right, until
we test them out.

Let’s put it more logically. If you don’t take action, you definitely won’t
get the women you want. If you do, you might or you might not.
Where does your only chance lie? Well, logically we all know that. It’s
the emotional impediments that stop us from approaching (beautiful)
women.

You need to step out of your own shoes and take the role of an
observer. Treat everything as an experiment. See yourself as a
“dealer” instead of a “player”. And don’t forget—the power of
humor you develop as you read through this book will dramatically
lower the risk of rejection.

You can always consider practicing first before going out to the real
world (but just don’t use it as an excuse to avoid taking action).
Simply record yourself saying a pick up line either with a tape recorder
or a computer. Pretend you are meeting a new woman. What would
you say and how would you reply? Play it back to hear yourself, adjust

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37 the details, repeat until you’re half-ready (you might never think
you’re ready enough) and then go out to test it out.

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38
Build Rapport with Women

Rapport is a relation marked by harmony, affection and mutual
respect. When you’re in rapport with a woman, she’ll treat you the way
she treats a close friend whom she’s ready to confide in. With an
overwhelming urge to understand as well as to be understood, she’ll
find everything between you and her agreeable.

Potentially, you can make her do anything if there’s a strong rapport
between you and her. She’ll look at you as though she’s looking at
herself. In some instances, she’ll think she’s found her “soul mate”.

Moreover, when two people come into rapport naturally, their body
language tends to coincide. They begin to “speak the same language”.
And they seem to go through the same kind of emotion and exhibit
similar reaction to environment and any other external event.

In order to effectively build rapport with a woman, you should start to
pace her, or mirror her actions. Simply perform similar or even
identical actions as she does. For example, if she frequently gestures
with her left hand while speaking, do the same. Believe me, 99% of
the time she won’t notice it. If she does notice, you’ve probably
overdone it. Just tell her something like, “Oh I’m sorry I didn’t realize
that”… with an innocent look.

It’ll be as if you are holding a mirror up to her so what she sees,
hears, or feels matches her reality and she sees another self in you.

The two of you will “become one”.

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39 Here are some suggestions on rapport building with a woman:

� Autosuggestion
. Repeat this line silently: “We’re like each other
and you can count on me.” (No, it’s not silly) Some people call this
“affirmation”, and it’s a technique salespeople often use to
increase confidence (“They’ll buy from me, they will buy from
me…”) as well as what motivational speakers tell their audience
to.

� Pace her speech rate.
It might feel unnatural at first, but you’ll get
used to it in a few minutes and it’ll become an automatic part of
your own behavior. And don’t worry. She won’t notice it.

� Practice rapport building systematically.
It’s a good idea to practice
pacing one thing at a time: posture, facial expression, mood,
gestures, speech rate, and so on. After you become adept at
pacing, you will be able do it without thinking about it.

� Practice rapport building frequently.
Building rapport in real life
whenever you can. For example, you can practice sitting in the
same position as a woman you’re watching. Modify accordingly of
course—you don’t want to sit with legs crossed all the time.

� Develop a strong sensory acuity.
When you practice rapport
building and pace other people’s body language, tonality… pay
attention to how the other party reacts and how your own feelings
change as you adopt different or even conflicting body languages.
This