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to the dusty annals of outdated behavior.
But do women really desire to be treated like "one of the boys?"
A recent interview conducted over the net, canvassing 7500
respondents of international backgrounds provide conclusive proof
that even the most jaded modern woman would melt in the hands
of a gallant man. Gallantry could never be an out-of-date technique
because through it, women are made to feel special. The female
psyche is inherently emotion-based and for the Ladies Man, that is
one doorway through which he can win her over.

Emotions: The Master Key to Her Main Door
To appeal to women, touch them on an emotional level. The
neuro-circuitry of their minds responds well to emotional
stimulation. In contrast, men function on a rational, logical manner.
This basic difference readily explains the great rift between men
and women. Both genders process experiences in radically
different ways. For that reason, misunderstanding ensues rapidly.
Remember the common complaint men have against women?
They are too emotional. They cry too easily. They find lots of things
funny, which is why they giggle a lot.
Women view men differently. Men are blocks of ice. They have a
lifeless heart. They look at life like one large conquest.
To win a woman over entails crossing sides. The man who shuts
down his rational self and activates his emotional circuitry will begin
thinking like a woman, and more importantly, begin empathizing
with her. He will understand why she behaves in such a manner
and how to touch upon, and validate her emotions.
That is the theory. Applying it in practice, again, is simplicity itself\
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I recommend the would-be Don Juan to drop most of his rational
thinking when in the company of women, specially the highly
emotional ones. Laugh with them when she giggles. Fawn over the
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stray dog that her heart bleeds for. Swallow your pride and weep
silently when she cries buckets of tears at a movie.
Everytime the woman shares her feelings, be sure to manifest
understanding and acknowledgement. You don't have to agree
with her; simply demonstrate that you empathize with her
emotions. For instance, as she mourns over the death of her
hamster, give her hand a reassuring squeeze and a big hug. Most
lesser males would unceremoniously toss the hamster in the
trash-bin... to the horror of their girlfriends or their wives! Diablo!
What a brute!

The Power of Feelings Talk
When women gather, they discuss John's love affair, Martha's
great birthday party, and Angel's recent coming of age. Their
conversations drip heavily with feelings.
When men gather, they discuss stock-markets, souped-up Lexus
engines and the miracle of microelectronics. If they do discuss
something emotional, it usually revolves around a rookie wrestler
bashing in the head of the reigning champion.
Men talk facts; women talk emotions. When men talk with women,
women get bored to tears. The lack of emotion drains away the
rapport.
Instead of discussing facts, talk feelings! Men who can create a
conversation laden with feelings set themselves apart as sensitive
and exciting. This may be the one conversational skill that can
make even the ugliest male shine out in a group of females.
Consider the following conversation between Mark and Jeff
Mark: Hey Jeff, whatcha doing?
Jeff: I'm fixing the boat. Why?
Mark: Dunno. Just curious. Where are you taking it later?
Jeff: Going to Palm springs.
Mark: Gee that's far. How far away is that?
Jeff: About 50 miles. Gotta tank up.
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Mark: Oh. That will cost fuel. How many gallons can she hold?
Jeff: 120 gallons tops.... etc etc.
Mark and Jeff's conversation reflect typical male banter. The
subject matter tends to be fact-based, and questions are close
ended, meaning that one or two words are required to answer
them. These conversations allow little room for savvy maneuvering
and interpersonal exploration. No wonder males and females don't
not always get along.
Now consider Josie and May:
Josie: Hi May, I just passed the boards!
May: Wow! I'm so happy for you! How did you feel about it?
Josie: I'm so relieved. I crammed so much, my stress levels shot
through the roof. I can now mellow down with the kids and go out
with Jack later.
May: I can imagine. It's like a tight rubber band just eased up huh?
I felt that way too when I hurdled my recent GMATs. I could barely
think straight. I was so afraid to fail!
From the conversation, both women elaborated on their emotions.
May, as supportive friend, validated Josie's feelings of triumph and
empathized with her by recalling a similar emotional incident in her
life. Each woman experienced tremendous rapport because both
were in emotional sync.
A man who desires the same amount of conversational rapport
with women sheds his propensity for fact-based questions. Instead
he asks questions that are open ended. Open-ended questions
typically begin with what, why or how and require entire paragraphs
in order to be answered.
Furthermore, the sensitive Ladies Man, crafts his questions that
touch base on the woman's emotional circuitry. He wisely asks her
how she feels and why she feels that way. To be a Don Juan, the
Ladies Man masters the art of emotional questioning and active
listening.
When he elicits