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yet to achieve.
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Vivid Occupational Descriptions
A useful technique for making good first impressions is to create a
short paragraph of your current preoccupations. Describe it in vivid,
enthusiastic detail and commit it to memory. The next time you
meet someone who asks you what you do, recite that short
paragraph. Without sounding too boastful, emanate a sense of
pride in what you do.
Even dull jobs can be made to sound great and exciting. For
instance:
"Me? I love my job. I handle the internal waterworks integrity of
residential areas. Sometimes I find it stressful when I can't locate
the source of pressure conflicts. Anyway, when I finally get the job
done, I feel a sense of accomplishment. I then go home and
celebrate the day's triumph with a fatter wallet that will help me
create a larger and formal outfit in the near future. I truly enjoy what\
I do! How about you? What gets you busy?"
Who would ever know this were a plumber? The man exudes as
much stability as a banker. Better yet, this man is on a mission. He
set his sights high and refuses to be content. His vigor, outlook and
enthusiasm would indubitably impresses his female companion.

Pursuit Vs. Attraction
Desperate men act desperate and in so doing, repel women. While
a tautological argument, observations certainly prove that
desperation in a male is an unwanted trait.
When a man overtly manifests his dead-set desire to get any
woman, regardless of quality or personality, he cheapens his
image. He is the type who approaches women in bars with
laughable pick-up lines that are obviously memorized . He bounces
from woman to woman begging for a date. When he receives
rejection, he gets moodier and moodier. He wonders what it is
about himself that repels others so much. These are the social
misfits who believe that chasing women is the only path to
success.
Successful Ladies Men take an alternate route. They don't chase
after women, they attract women.
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Attracting women implies creating an image of nonchalant
desirability. Instead of pursuing, Ladies Men offer themselves as a
prime choice... maybe, the ONLY choice.
To attract women, demands that the male adopt an attitude of
nonchalance. In his quest for romance, he cares little whether his
advances will be received or not. If rebuffed, he moves on. If his
charms are welcomed, then that is icing on his cake, a triumph.
The Ladies Man understands that he is offering himself as an
exciting alternative to the bland men out there. If his company is
not accepted, he automatically shrugs his shoulders because he
knows it's her loss not his.
This attitude of indifference makes men magnetic because women
who are used to being pursued suddenly find themselves working
actively to gain the attention of this "difficult man." It excites them.\
Nonchalance is but one ingredient to attracting women.
Another tested formula is to create a vast network of casual women
friends. Being seen with many casuals invokes curiosity and rivalry
in the minds of women who develop an interest in you.
Forging the network takes a bit of exertion. As a fledgling ladies
man, you may consider going out of your way to make friendly
acquaintances with everyone you meet. Start small in the
beginning. Smile or say hello to the hotdog vender or salesgirl
where you get your coffee. Greet the woman who delivers your
laundry. Entertain that cute little girlscout selling cookies! Be warm
with everyone by giving one or two compliments.
Work your way up. When you have established the seed of
confidence, begin smiling at those whom you find attractive. Be
pleasant to total strangers. In time, the network of casual
acquaintances will surprise you. Everyone in town would have
become familiar with your friendliness. The next time a beautiful
stranger agrees to meet with you, she will be amazed the the
tremendous rapport you have with others, and she will seek to
discover the secret of your charisma.

"Get Together" Technique
Subtlety pays off in spades. The aspiring Ladies Man avoids pickup
lines because pickup lines beg for rejection. How could you not say
no to, "Gee, your father must have been a thief because he stole
the stars and placed it in your eyes. Can we have a date?"
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Appalling!
Approaching a newly-made acquaintance and requesting for a
future afternoon of relationship-deepening need not be such a
humiliating experience.
When proposing a date, it may even be better not to mention the
word "date" because it puts women on the defensive. Women feel
pressured by the the request because of the connotations
enveloping a "date." Dates imply a certain level of commitment and
performance, which she may not be prepared to handle. Hence,
one sure-fire way of creating resistance is asking, "Hello, since we
know each other a little, why don't we have a date, say next
week?" The line is uninspired and speaks of an uncreative mind.
To get that "date", the Ladies Man tactfully approaches the
dilemma by suggesting not a connotation-laden "date", but
instead, an innocent "get-together."
A suavely uttered line could be, "Mary Anne,