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the average man.

Your New Best Friend
It may be easier to think your penis has its own personality,
but a disconnected attitude like this ultimately will not serve you
well. It may spare you some anxiety and discomfort, but it also robs
you of much of your pleasure.
Your penis is not a separate entity subletting space in your
underwear. It is not that noisy tenant downstairs who keeps you
awake all night long. Don't treat it that way. Your penis is an
important part of you; it's sometimes the most honest part of you.
When you're scared, your penis shows it. When you're excited, your
penis shows it. When you're depressed; your penis knows it, and it
behaves accordingly. You can fool some of the people some of the
time, but you can't fool your own penis. The two of you are totally
connected, and you will be for the rest of your life. Now that's no
stranger, is it?
I tell men: Embrace your penis! Put out the welcome mat. Open a
dialogue. Let it know it's a part of you and let it know you care.
It's time to bring your penis in from the cold. The sooner you do,
the sooner your sexuality will start to change. Now here's the best
news. If you like your penis, your partner is going to like your
penis. If you're proud of your penis, your partner is going to be
proud of your penis. If you embrace your penis, your partner is
going to embrace your penis. Sound good? I thought it would.

A Man Who Controls His Penis A Man in Demand
In my experience, there are two kinds of men in the world: men
who control their penises and men who are controlled by their
penises. A man who cannot control his penis is a man who lives in
fear. He fears having his inadequacy discovered, not being able to
have a satisfying sex life, and not being able to fulfill the woman
he loves.
For all of us-male and female-the single greatest obstacle to
sexual pleasure is fear of our own equipment. My goal is to begin
dismantling some of that fear. A healthier relationship with one's
penis can dissolve many common performance anxieties by giving a man
a true sense of control over his own functioning.
Sexual performance is not a mystery or something to be feared.
Sexual functioning is a physiological process, just like breathing
or sleeping-it just feels better. Like most other physiological
processes, your sexual performance can be understood, altered, and
improved. And that's exactly what you are going to do, starting
today.

An Important Anatomy Lesson
Everybody knows that the penis is not a muscle. If it was,
you'd probably be at the gym right now. What most people don't know

14 is that there is a muscle that plays a crucial role in the
functioning of the penis: the pubococcygeus muscle (pyoo-bo-cock-
see-gee-us). Say that five times fast.
The pubococcygeus muscle-or PC muscle, for short-is actually a
group of muscles that run from the pubic bone to the tailbone. Now,
you may already know this muscle in a different way. The PC muscle
is the muscle you use to stop the flow of urine from the bladder. It
is also the muscle that contracts when you ejaculate, moving the
semen up through the penis and out of the body.
The PC muscle is a busy little muscle. But let me tell you, as
far as most men are concerned, it is still grossly underemployed.
Don't you worry-we're going to change all that very soon. Male
multiple orgasm depends on a strong PC muscle. The PC muscle is the
key to penile reformation. It's your ticket to the big leagues . . .
your way to the top. Most of the techniques you will learn in later
chapters cannot be done without PC power. That's why the first set
of exercises I introduce in this book is designed specifically to
"prep" the PC muscle. These exercises, found in chapter 4, are
crucial and must be done first. They cannot be skipped and they
cannot be taken lightly. So don't skip them, and don't take them
lightly. Please.

Power to the PC
Now you may be thinking, "I'm not eighteen anymore. My penis
doesn't function like the penis of a younger man, exercise or no
exercise." Listen to me. It doesn't matter how old or young you are.
Is an eighteen-year-old too young to go to the gym to strengthen his
biceps? Is a sixty-year-old too old to walk three miles a day to
strengthen his heart? Of course not. A muscle can be strengthened at
any age.