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else will follow
very quickly from there. To ignore the power of your own penis is to
waste your greatest asset, and that's a shame.

Aren't You Tired of Having Sex with a Stranger?
You have known your penis all your life. You have known your
penis longer than you have known your partner, your boss, your best
friend, or your trusty dog Spuds. Yet, for all the time you've been
together, you barely know it at all. Even though you probably take a
good look at your equipment every single day, the real potential of
your own penis has continued to elude you.
When was the last time you spent any quality time with your
penis? When was the last time you two had a real heart-to-heart? I'd
guess you were probably eleven or twelve years old at the time.
Chances are that back then you were fascinated with your own
equipment. It didn't seem like there was enough time in the day for
the two of you to get to know one another. But once you had your
first few orgasms, that probably started to change. Once you
discovered what felt good to you at the time, your curiosity began
to wane. You found a formula that worked, you stuck with it, and
that was that.
Even if you were tempted to experiment over the years, your
attempts were probably more frustrating than fulfilling. A lack of

12 helpful information and an abundance of misinformation could only
discourage your natural interest. Living in a world with so little
to offer you, you did the best you could. You made peace with your
penis and forged a working relationship that continues to this day.
Sure, you might have tried something new once in a great while when
you met a new partner or when you got a little bored, but chances
are that ten, twenty-five, or even fifty years later, you're doing
pretty much the same thing that you did as an eleven-year-old.
But you're not eleven anymore. You've grown up and your body
has grown up. Your needs have changed, and now you have a partner
who also has needs. Don't you think it's time to develop an adult
understanding of your own equipment? Don't you think it's time to
expand upon the mindset of that enthusiastic but naive eleven-year-
old and get excited again about your sexual potential as a man?

Does Your Penis Have a Mind of Its Own?
In this chapter, I'm going to help you take the first step
toward becoming more intimate with your penis. You are going to
realize, probably for the first time, how you can gain control of
your own equipment. This is a big switch for any man who believes it
is his penis that is always at the helm.
Men typically treat their penises as though they were separate,
disconnected objects with brains of their own. They say things like,
"Don't talk to me. . . talk to him. He did it." They give their
penises names like "Little Robert," "Big Jim," "Captain Fantastic,"
or "Mr. Doozy." I have to admit, this really makes me laugh because
women are so different. How many women do you know who have pet
names for their vaginas? How many times do you hear women
affectionately refer to their genitals using names like "Miss Lucy"
or "The Cannibal"? You don't hear women saying things like, "I guess
little Beth down there doesn't want to come out to play today."
There are lots of possible reasons why men treat their penises
in this disconnected fashion. No doubt, there are some men who split
themselves off from their penises because they don't want to take
responsibility for their own sexuality or the consequences of their
own sexual behavior. It's a great way to justify being careless or
insensitive. I think even more men distance themselves from their
genitals because they have problems dealing with the frustration of
being unable to control their bodies. This makes any perceived
sexual failures or perceived shortcomings easier to tolerate.
Because the penis is physically externalized-hanging out there,
so to speak-it is more open to scrutiny. If a woman fails to get
aroused, only she knows for sure. She may not be happy about it, but
you won't read about it in the tabloids. Not so for a man. If a
penis isn't doing what it's supposed to do, everyone in the room
knows it. If a man is having difficulties, the evidence is out there
in the open for all to see. Even those satellites in outer space
that photograph license plates are going to recognize a penis that

13 isn't doing its job. That's a lot of pressure-too much pressure