you SINCERELY
misunderstand, and pretend that you THINK she is saying she wants to have sex with you right
away since she has to get up early and can't wait to get to it!
So, in this case, you are saying, "Hey ... this is a communication about having sex with me, and
you are telling me you can't WAIT to get to it!" You "get" her implication ... but you take it the
wrong way!
So you say something like, "Oh ... well ... I'm not one to get physical really quickly but I guess if
you get me drunk right away we can get it on early in the evening. But YOU are going to have to
be the one to drive!"
Then you MUST make sure to be extra-aggressive ... to show her you do NOT let yourself be
shoved around by manipulation like this ...
By the way, an honest, "I'm very attracted to you, but I feel a little scared about pushing things
physically" from her is NOT an attack. THAT communication can be honored, discussed,
worked around reframed, etc ...
2. You've played a round or two of phone tag and she has NOT returned your call(s). You run into
her socially and she gives you that phony, boguslysweet bullshit excuse of ...
"Oh ... I’ve been MEANING to call you ... but I'm SOOOO busy!"
Now, what is the UNSTATED implication of her communication? What is the rest of the sen-
tence that SHOULD be spoken, after "I'm so busy" ... How about:
"with things that are MORE important than you!'"
What she is really saying is, "You just really aren't THAT important, but I'm not going to tell you
that directly!"
Anyway you slice it, that is what she is letting you know.
Note, please, that the damage here is NOT from the fact that she is so dumb, she doesn't accord
you with much importance. That is just bad taste on her part. Any normally confident guy should
really care less and "next her" ...
The damage is that because it is UNSTATED, she can cause you to doubt what is really going
on. She can put you in a place of doubt about her interest in you, which starts the supplication
cycle going ... and pretty soon, your google is dragged way down with women in general ...
It is NOT what she is communicating, but the dishonest, unclear manner which creates uncer-
tainty and confusion, which by the way are also PRIME states for increasing suggestibility and
compliance/subject control ...
HUMANS HATE UNCERTAINTY! Installing uncertainty is a primary compliance move.
Here are some good responses to this bullshit:
Nonchalantly: "I ASSUMED you were busy. Anyone who COULD hang out with me and did-
n't, would have to be fucking … a TOTAL idiot and you're certainly far from THAT ... aren't
you?" ...
Ahh ... now SHE is the one left wondering what YOU really mean! Are you being sincere about
believing she is "busy" or are you telling her you think she is full of shit AND too stupid to appre-
ciate the value of being with her? Since it is delivered with the SAME phony sincerity she used
on you, she won’t, know! Now SHE is the one suddenly in doubt ... about what YOU think of
her and also if maybe SHE is the one missing something!
Also notice the ambiguity ... are you saying SHE is a total fucking idiot, or that she is FUCKING
someone who is a total idiot? Probably, it is a matter of BOTH!
HA HA HA HA!
3. She cancels at near the last minute with a "bullshit" excuse WITHOUT a positive expression that
getting together is something she TRULY wants to do!
Here is a real life example sent to me in email by a Bro:
Just got this (5 hours before the date):
Hi XXXX,
I'm writing you an email cuz I don’t have your number with me ... so I cant call. argghh!
But anyways ... I have to cancel tonight. I'm sorry for such late notice, but I need to baby-
sit for my boss. She's really in a bind and I want to help her out. Plus my review is coming
up! hahaha ...
So I hope you get this in plenty of time?
Talk to you later, Michelle
Now, do you notice what is missing from this communication? What's missing is any sane, rea-
sonable way to tell if this is just a bullshit excuse or if the girl is STILL really interested in hooking
up ...
This is the kind of uncertainty and doubt inducer that can drive a guy nuts ... I mean, what if the
excuse IS legit and you don’t
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