David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Sexual Communication Workbook | Page 8

ONE TO DO IT. You're
going to have to do pro-active things EVERY time you start talking to a new woman
to SPARK the chemistry.
Once you get this at a deep level and start to do it, you'll see something
magical start to happen... women will start responding to you in the most
wonderful ways. They'll start flirting back, and you'll see that you have the power to
frame and set up your relationships with women correctly RIGHT FROM THE
BEGINNING. Instead of being seen as the nice friendly friend, you can POSITION
yourself as someone who ma kes her feel ATTRACTION.
I'm about to talk about a couple of different concepts, and how to use them
to spark and amplify attraction. These concepts are FLIRTING and being COCKY &
FUNNY. Flirting and Being Cocky & Funny can be one and the same, but I'm going
to explain them separately, so you can understand how they work together.
Flirting
First I want to talk about the concept of ‘flirting,’ and why it's SO important
that you understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, women know what flirting is, and they respond VERY
differently to flirtatious communication than they do to typical social
communication.
Again, if you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin
conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.
If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then you're
either going to have to become famous or make a LOT of money to be successful
with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well, and then do it RIGHT
FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing.

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Remember when you were a kid and you used to ‘play fight’ with your
friends?
What's the difference between ‘play’ wrestling and ‘real’ wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it's happening... when your friend
runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other animals,
by the way) when someone is ‘playing’ and when they're serious.
Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi, you're very pretty. You probably
have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting. You're just
hitting on her, just showin g you're attracted to her.
On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I re alize that you're probably shy because
you get no attention from men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention
to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not bein g serious. This is flirting. You're showing
that you might be attracted to her
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply te lling jokes, or trying to be ‘cute.’
It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they can't see
themselves flirting because they don't want to come across as jerks.
This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that these guys JUST
DON'T GET IT.
So let me explain this whole thing a different way...
Flirt From The Very Start
If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you
RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and
ATTRACTION.
When you know how to incorporate flirting as a form of ‘adult verbal play,’
you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind, and cause her to go into a
very special kind of emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to ‘get it.’ In other words, you have to
actually get out there and practice so you get a ‘feel’ for how it works.
I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line or technique and a
woman responds negatively. Instead of just realizing that they need more practice
or that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one of those
horrible ‘I don't have a sense of humor’ cases, they take it personally and decide
that it means they're a failure.

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But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt effectively and
communicate in the language of ‘adult play’ you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how
women will respond to you.
Flirting Example
Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to ‘riff on’ when
flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a re lationship... and I'll give it
to you in the form of a sample dialogue. Keep in mind, I might have