David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Sexual Communication Workbook | Page 7

he's aloof and elusive, you get caught up in the
challenge and excitement of the chase-though he's not always someone you'd
really want even if you did capture him. A bad boy may tell you he's generally right.
He's a frog you hope to turn into a fairy-tale prince with the magic of your kiss..."
-"Bad Boys" by Carol Lieberman and Lisa Collier
It's All About Emotions
Now, take a moment and think about what that passage said. She's talking
about an emotion. You can only describe an emotion with words.... But imagine the
feeling behind the words "He is someone who sets off throbbing sexual and
aggressive passions within you." HE SETS OFF THROBBING SEXUAL PASSIONS.
Not ‘he convinces you to feel’ or ‘b uys you dinner until you like him.’ We're
talking about SETTING OFF THROBBING SEXUAL PASSIONS HERE! And this isn't
because he's handsome. It's because the BAD BOY IS DOING SOMETHING
DIFFERENT. He's communicating in a different way... and we're going to talk about
what that way is.
There's no doubt that ‘bad boys’ attract women. But most ‘bad boys’ also
have a dark side. They're abusive. But attractive doesn't have to be abusive. I
believe you can take what bad boys do to set off amazing throbbing sexual passions
inside women BUT LEAVE THE ABUSE BEHIND.
So let's talk about this special type of communication, and how YOU can use
it to attract women. What I'm about to share is based on years of my personal
time, research, and experimentation. This is powerful stuff that I had to figure out
in the real world.
A Quick Review To Set This Up
Sexual Communication is a very diffe rent language, like the difference
between English and binary computer code.
This language must be sparked from the very beginning and set as the
‘frame’ for the rest of the relationship. If you don't start speaking it right from the
beginning, women won't speak it either.

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ATTRACTION ISNT A CHOICE... so you can't CONVINCE a woman to feel the
emotion of attraction for you... it happens outside of the conscious choice process.
Just remember the four steps of the process of Sexual Communication:
1. Sparking attraction or chemistry (Flirting, openers, starting with cheeky,
sassy humor)
2. Building sexual tension (Cocky and Funny, arrogance)
3. Amplifying the attrac tion (Two steps forward, one back... leaving house
immediately)
4. Physically advancing (Smelling, kissing, etc.)
...and remember that we were all born knowing how to communicate
sexually, but that most of us have never developed these natural abilities. Even
though they may seem unnatural or uncomfortable at first, with time they'll develop
into a natural part of your personality, just like you might learn how to walk or
speak.
Women basically NEVER feel sexual attraction for WUSSIES, so develop
traditionally masculine traits and qualities which are naturally attractive to women.
Respond to women's tests with a challenge that increases attraction and
avoids acting like a WUSSY.
Apply the attitudes, strategies, and te chniques that cultivate the personality
that's naturally ATTRACTIVE to women: leadership, unpredictability, being
challenging, etc.
In this section, we're going to talk about some more SPECIFICS for the first
two steps of Sexual Communication: sparki ng the attraction and building sexual
tension.
Sexual Tension
What is ‘sexual tension’ or ‘chemistry’?

Most guys think it's when two people are PHYSICALLY attracted to each
other, and get MORE attracted as they talk.

Well, WOMEN know exactly what sexual tension and chemistry are, but men
have no real idea because they think it's all based on physical looks.

And because most men aren't young, tall, and handsome they don't even
ENTERTAIN the concept that they could enjoy creating and amplifying sexual
tension and chemistry with attractive women.
Chemistry is a reference to a FEELING... an EMOTION. If the woman feels the
emotion, chemistry is present.

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Sexual tension is created by flirting, being suggestive, using humor, and
demonstrating that you're sexually confid ent and aware and that you know what's
going on, but you're not desperate... so yo u can lay back and enjoy the sparks and
unpredictable story that's unfolding.
ANTICIPATION is a big part of this puzzle. Most men don't see any need for
enjoying anticipation... instead thinking they should just go for it and get it done
now... but as Russell Crowe found out in
A Beautiful Mind, when you sit down at the
bar and say "I mean essentially we are talking about fluid exchange, right? So could
we go just straight to the sex?" you just get a drink thrown in your face.
You Must Spark Chemistry First
The chemistry has to be SPARKED initially. If you're not an unusually
attractive man, then YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO BE THE