David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Sexual Communication Workbook | Page 9

a conversation
like this with a woman that I ju st met five minutes earlier...
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for
Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with
money."
Her: "OK, that sounds like a plan"
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on
your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye
on the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going
to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money."
Her: "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend."
Me: "That's all the more reason."

Do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting
the conversation in a flirtatious way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by
suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting me, etc.).
Practicing
If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a
sign that you need to get out and practi ce more. Try it on a waitress or two.
When you ask for something and she says "I'm sorry, we don't have that,"
just say "OK, this relation ship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up
with you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where
she's saying something that you don't like, and it's funny.

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When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and
you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than most men initiate.
And as soon as the woman you're talkin g to ‘engages’ you in this kind of
dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.
Non-Verbal Flirting
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the
same... only exaggerate it.
If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her
in a surprised way, then raise your eyebr ows as if you just had a major "ah ha!"
realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it
exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to
make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF
YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
FIVE WAYS TO SPARK THE CHEMISTRY BY FLIRTING
1. Giving her a hard time about something in a flirty way. In person, when
responding to her personal ad, etc.
2. Mentioning how the relationship just doesn't seem to be working.
3. Faking despair at something she's doing... shaking your head and
exhaling.
4. Overly dramatic complaints about her job performance, behavior,
difficultness, etc.
5. Behaving like you could take her or leave her... and like she's just a good
friend (too comfortable)... unlike all th e other men who communicate that they're
awed and in Wussville because they're INTERESTED.
Cocky And Funny
Now I'm going to talk about one of my favorite concepts, which might be
called ‘EXTREME FLIRTING’... Cocky & Funny, and it's something that almost EVERY
'naturally successful' guy does to attract women.
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, conc entrated way of flirting and creating
sexual tension with a specific kind of humor.
Now, it just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting
their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should
make them feel attraction.

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I can understand this, because I was exactly the same way the first few
times I heard it and saw it.
I kept thinking to myself "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going
to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."
Well, was I ever wrong?
Once Again: ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE
You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow
the rules that it ‘should’ follow.
ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that
don't make any sense at first glance...
I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreated
them, abused them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman
to accept.
Why?
ATTRACTION. In