David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Sexual Communication Workbook | Page 4

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Exercise 2:
Get Julius Fast's book Body Language and read chapter 7 "The Silent
Language Of Love" while thinking about what is going on with the main character,
"Mike."

SECTION 2: Concepts and Rules
In this section, I'll talk about the rules of conduct for sexual communication,
some of the attitudes and rules of thumb for creating sexual tension, and how to
handle some common situations you' ll face when dealing with women.

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How Women Treat Wusses
Have you ever had a woman challenge you or demand something in a way
that gave you a sick, uncomfortable feeling in your stomach because you just didn't
know what to do, but you wanted to do whatever you could to please her?
Have you ever done something to please or appease a woman, but by her
response you could tell that she wasn't actually pleased by it?
Have you ever pursued a woman with everything you had... and done
everything you could think of to show her you were falling for her... only to have
her pull away?
Have you ever had a woman choose a jerk or an abusive guy over you... or
even worse, cheat on you with one of these types?
Why Does This Happen?
Well, it's a combination of things.
Women are attracted to certain traits naturally. If you don't display these
traits and create the impression in her mind that you embody these traits, then
she's not likely to feel attracted to you... and she'll often challenge you directly to
QUICKLY see how much of a WUSSY you are.
Women test men on a constant, ongoing basis. If you start failing these
tests, they'll only get tougher and more intense... until she leaves.
If a woman begins to LOSE her ATTRACTION to a man, she'll become
uncomfortable and start doing all kinds of strange things... which usually end in her
leaving for another man... and it's not uncommon for that man to be an abusive
personality whose Sexual Communication causes ATTRACTION.
Back To The Stages of Sexual Communication
In the last section, I mentioned that th ere is a specific sequence to Sexual
Communication. Let's review that, and get a little more detailed with it.
1. Sparking attraction or chemistry (Flirting, openers, starting with
cheeky, sassy humor)
2. Building sexual tension (Cocky and Funny, arrogance)
3. Amplifying the attraction (Two steps forward, one back... leaving the
house immediately)
4. Physically advancing (Smelling, kissing, etc.)
Let me ask you... Do women make dec isions about a man's ‘masculinity’
‘confidence’ ‘sexual awareness’ etc. cons ciously or unconsciously? Do they make
these decisions slowly, over time... or instantly?

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They make them quickly and unconsciously. A woman doesn't choose to feel
these attributes; she just senses they're there or they're not there.
Another question: What CUES do women look for on an unconscious level to
figure out whether a man is sexually aw are and confident or not? How can you
project these cues so that women feel ATTRACTION for you and Sexual Tension
around you?
In this section, we're going to focus on those things you need to have in
order to present yourself in a way that NATURALLY SPARKS ATTRACTION, and also
talk about some of the rules of thumb for Sexual Communication.
Masculine Qualities
I'd like to talk about cultivating ‘traditionally masculine qualities.’ Women
have powerful gut level emotional responses to extremely masculine qualities in
men. It may be an over-used saying but ‘BE A MAN’ is still generally good advice
when it comes to attracting women.
If I had to sum it up, I'd say that women are attracted to the qualities of the
LEADER. He doesn't look to others for ap proval, and instead does what he decides
is the right thing... moving forward without signs of fear, self doubt, or cowardice.
He lives in his own world, his own rea lity, and he doesn't let outside events
emotionally destabilize him. He holds and carries himself in a naturally confident
way, and he projects AUTHORITY in everything he does and says.
Qualities Of The Sexually Attractive Man
• Over-confidence that's charming, funny, etc.
• Leadership/not needing approval
• Confidence/lack of insecurity
• Dominance
• Control
• Selfishness
• Composure, unflappability
• Being Unapologetic
• Crass
• Picky
• Judgmental
• Not accepting 2nd class behavior or treatment from others
• Overly selective
• Territorial
• In control of self/sex drive, but just barely
• Tells others what to do
• Your reality
• Strong Posture/Gestures
• Strong eye contact

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Women And Testing
Women test men. They do this for various reasons, and as far as I'm
concerned it's mostly unconscious. In other