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likely to have an orgasm-which makes
her much more likely to get pregnant-with their lovers than their official mates.
These discoveries reveal a shocking drive in women. Though this behavior is
consciously rationalized, there's no denying the biological impulses at work behind
the scenes.
Instinctive Courtship
In the animal kingdom, there are no ‘words’ or ‘pick-up lines.’ There's no way
to say "Excuse me for interrupting you, bu t you're beautiful. Would you like to go
out the day after tomorrow?"
Yet somehow all animals know exactly how to court each other and how to
respond to courting. Every species knows what to look for and how to react if
interested or not interested.
Watch two butterflies flying in circles around each other... or two birds doing
a mating dance. Next time you're watching Discovery, think about the amazing fact
that none of these animals has ever ‘learned’ how to attract a mate. It's all in there
from birth...
As humans, I believe that we have the ex act same abilities. It's just that, as
I mentioned earlier, for various reasons these natural powers have never been
developed by most men.
Human sexual ornamentation is much more complex than Peacock feathers,
bird calls, or antler size. Most men don't realize what their sexual ornamentation is,
much less how to demonstrate it...
What sets humans above the animals is our capacity for conscious thought.
While muscle is attractive too, we actually court with our minds: art, humor, music,
etc.
In order to cultivate your powers of sexual communication, it is therefore
VERY important that you realize that this is something we're going to DEVELOP
inside of you, not something that is totally alien knowledge. The more you develop,
the more natural this skill will feel to use, and the better you'll become at it.
Just like anything else, if you've never flexed these muscles before, so to
speak, the initial learning curve might be steeper. But stick with it. As you improve,
you'll start to become more and more successful.

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Note: You may have to give up ideas, perceptions, beliefs, or other closely
held issues that are dear to your self-identity. You might have to change the way
you look, talk, walk, behave, communicate, and think.
This isn't easy for most people. For now, just keep an open mind as we get
deeper and deeper into the materials. As the pieces start to fit together and you
notice them in the natural world it will come more easily.
The 4-Step Process Of Sexual Communication
When it comes to attraction, many rules of communication are reversed and
turned on their heads. If it doesn't work the way you think it does, just clear your
existing beliefs and start fresh.
I'm about to reveal the actual stages of sexual communication, and we'll go
into each step in detail over the course of this book.
For now, here's the 4-step pr ocess of sexual communication:
1. Sparking attraction or chemistry (Flirting; openers; starting
with cheeky, sassy humor)
2. Building sexual tension (Cocky and Funny, arrogance)
3. Amplifying the attraction (Two steps forward, one back;
leaving your house immediately)
4. Physically advancing (Smelling, kissing, light touches, etc.)
The Power Of Belief
If you believe things are one way, then you'll use everything that you learn
to prove yourself right, rather than seeing a new way. I'd like you to start realizing
that there is another language being spoken all around you. This is the language of
Sexual Communication. If you learn to s peak this language, you'll begin making
women feel a powerful sexual attraction for you.
So let's do an exercise on ‘Identifying Limiting Beliefs.’
• List ten of your beliefs about your ability to sexually attract women
• Think about where those beliefs ca me from, how they first started
• For each belief, come up with a re al or hypothetical situation where
the belief is not true, and use it to doubt the belief
• Now list the new beliefs you'd like to replace the old ones with
• Come up with 10 present tense, po sitive statements about your new
beliefs
• Write those 10 affirmations every day for the next 30 days, and
imagine the kinds of success that w ill flow from them as you believe
them more and more
For example:
• I get nervous when I talk to attractive women

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• It started when I was rejected by a cute girl in junior-high
• I'm not nervous when I teach physics, even to cute coeds
• I can stay calm and confident in any situation
• I am calm and confident in every