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way, a woman will
become INSTANTLY TRANSFIXED on you and be LITERALLY unable to take
her attention off of you... the purpose of this book is to explain how and why
this mechanism exists, and, more importantly, how to use it to attract the
kinds of women you've always wanted...
Now, let me ask you:
What makes YOU feel that INSTANT ATTRACTION for a woman?
For most men it's a certain look, a body part... maybe a voice tone or a
touch.
Most of the single guys I know don't say "Hey, let's go out Friday night
and look for some women with great morals, stable family units, and good
conversation skills."
If we humans were purely LOGICAL creatures, then we wouldn't care too
much about looks. As a matter of fact, we might even think things like,
"Well, she looks TOO good... she probably spends a lot of time tending to
her looks, which means she won't be a very attentive partner and parent... I
choose not to feel attracted to her."
And then we all woke up!
And back to reality...
As you’re going to hear me say a lot, men are attracted more to looks,
and women are ATTRACTED more to personality, style, and communication.
Sure, Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise are handsome in a way that turns women
on, but these guys aren't the RULE, they're the exception.
Men are attracted to hot-looking young women, and women are attracted
to a special combination of confidence, humor, and personality.
The fact is that women's attention is captured by the type of character
usually found in romance novels because these men offer something that
satisfies a DEEPER need. And this deeper need is both emotional and
complex.

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If you run down to the bookstore and pick up some of these romance
novels, you'll find something interesting... the stories usually start with a
male character that is wild, often abusive, untamed, and generally a not-
very-nice kind of guy (Sure, by the end of the book he's usually calmed
down a bit, but you always know who he REALLY is underneath).
I'm sure you've either experienced or seen the situation where a guy
says, "For some reason the women I know date these jerks, then I'm the
'friend' that gets to hear about it." Why is it that women date jerks, then tell
their "nice guy" friends the stories instead of just dating the nice guys in the
first place?
ATTRACTION. ATTRACTION. ATTRACTION!
An Exercise To Help You Start Thinking Differently
I have a simple exercise that I'd like you to try right now:
Take your computer mouse and turn it 180 degrees clockwise. Turn it so
the end that is usually closest to you is now furthest from you, and the
furthest part is closest. (If it has a cord, the cord and buttons will be under
your palm now.)
Now try to use the mouse to move the pointer around on your screen.
At first, it doesn't make any sense... it's backwards and upside down.
But as you play with it a bit, you start to get used to it, and you can move
around pretty quickly.
Now try using it with it turned only 90 degrees one way or another. This
is much harder. But with some practice you can do it.
Learning to make women feel attraction for you is much the same way.
At first it DOESN'T SEEM TO MAKE ANY SENSE AT ALL. But the more you
practice, the more you start to see that even though it isn't logical IT DOES
HAVE A PATTERN AND A METHODOLOGY TO IT.
As a matter of fact, I've realized that once you learn this set of behaviors
that "pushes the attraction button" inside of women, you will start to see
that women actually KNOW when they are dealing with a man that
understands this principle. Women instantly respond to men who "get it" and
they INSTANTLY REJECT MEN WHO DON'T.
Just like moving an upside-down mouse you must learn to do things that
don't come "naturally" to you.

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But once you learn them you'll have a skill that will create amazing
results in your life.
You must remember that attractive women are being approached all the
time by guys who kiss up to them. This almost NEVER creates attraction.
You must be something different. You must be entertaining but not goofy,
and confident but not so much that you appear insecure. Most importantly,
you must be totally in control of yourself and the situation.
I hope you're starting to understand better why I always say, "Attraction
Isn't A Choice."
My Quick Take On Relationships
If you've read my book "Double Your Dating", then there's a good
chance that somewhere along the way you've asked yourself the question:
"Does this guy think that long-term relationships are healthy?"
To set the record books straight, I want to say:
"Yes, I think that long-term relationships are wonderful, healthy, and can
be a great source of joy and happiness, Amen."
I've had many of them