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time with him, enjoy having sex with him, etc. Most guys are
also surprised that a woman will actually do the pursuing if the situation is
desirable for her.
I wrote this book to get you over the idea that kissing up to a woman,
giving away your power, accepting her manipulative behavior, buying her
things, pursuing her, acting apologetic, and all the other traditional ideas
aren't the answer.
The answer lies in learning how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION...
When you can create that emotion inside of a woman, she'll want you
just because she loves how she feels when she's with you.
Just as importantly, she’ll want you because she DOESN'T like how she
feels when she's NOT around you.
Seducing Women Feels Manipulative
The “pick up chicks” books and ideas I tried when I was starting out
learning how to be successful with women didn’t work very well, and often
just felt wrong.
Compared with many of these other things, my stuff “feels right”. I show
guys how to get in touch with their inner attractiveness, how to be smooth
and be a gentleman instead of being sneaky and being a jerk.
I’m not a relationship expert… I prefer to focus on first meeting to the
first several dates. I feel that’s an area that most guys find the toughest to
figure out.
I don’t have any hang-ups or negative moralistic views of sex… I think
that safe sex is a beautiful and healthy thing. I’m loyal when I have a
girlfriend, but I see nothing wrong with dating whoever I want when I’m
single.
It’s a challenge to help a person who “doesn’t get it” in a certain area of
life to get to a place where they do “get it”. It’s a challenge that not many
people undertake. Many people will just explain some techniques or maybe
only a principle. But to take a person who doesn’t have a real frame of
reference for something, like success with women, and get them to where
they're willing to accept a completely new way of looking at things is never

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easy.
For instance, I’ve realized that teasing and playing hard to get with a
woman often gives her what she REALLY wants – it’s often what will make
her feel a REAL gut-level attraction for a man. It’s not an easy theory to get
someone to understand, considering that common sense tells you that this
behavior is rude and not socially acceptable. Are you with me on this?
Beyond that, to get someone to overcome genetically wired and socially
programmed beliefs, drives, and ideas long enough to actually try new
things… and to stick with them until they get good at them… is a real
undertaking.
I believe in what I’m teaching, because it took me years of trial and error
to figure this stuff out and because I’ve seen it work for so many guys. It’s
been proven that the ones who apply themselves get results. My challenge
in this book and with my other products is to help other guys achieve more
success in this aspect of their life.
There is a lot of power in deciding that you will do “WHATEVER IT
TAKES” to achieve your goals, and I really hope that you make the
commitment to yourself to get this area of your life handled for good.
Take a minute right now and commit to yourself. Commit to doing
whatever it takes to get this part of your life sorted. The more committed
you are to YOURSELF, the faster you’ll improve, and the more likely you are
to experience the success that you really want.
Now, let’s get to it!

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Part 1: Attraction Isn’t A Choice

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Chapter 1: Attraction Isn’t A Choice
An Open Letter From A Lonely, Beautiful Woman To Herself
“Dear Diary,
It seems like these days are all the same… one guy after another. I
guess I should consider myself lucky, but at the same time it’s so frustrating
to be me.
My boss was “flirting” with me again today. It’s starting to make me feel
uncomfortable... He’ll come into my office for absolutely no reason and
pretend he’s letting me in on some kind of “secret” in the company. It’s so
obvious what he really wants. It’s just like when I’m at the store and some
strange guy will pretend to be shopping for something totally out of the
ordinary (which they never end up buying) just to eye me up and down in
the aisle. These guys just don’t have a clue.
Tonight I finally went out with Brian. I was so excited… he seemed really
nice at first, but then it just went on and on and on…. ARGH! They just don’t
get it. It was like everything he did was to try to impress me, from making
sure I approved of the restaurant (and the time, and the table, and even the
parking spot) to