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system, in front of you, and somewhere on your personal
seduction spectrum. Second, we focus on technology—that is, knowing what to say and what to
do when those women are in front of you. Third, we focus on the internal blocks and resistance
that makes it hard to implement the f irst two parts of the program.
“Where do I meet women?” is a question of throughput. If you aren’t coming into contact
with lots women on a regular basis, you aren’t going to be able to practice your seduction skills,
and won’t get women.
It’s hard to generate a romantic contact out of an interaction you create by going up to a
woman on the street. It’s possible, but it’s hard. To make life easier, you need to f ind niches. A
niche is a place that you have found that pretty reliably puts eligible, attractive women in front
of you. A skilled f isherman, for instance, doesn’t just throw his line in anywhere in a lake—he
knows where the best f ishing holes are, and that’s where he goes. If one f ishing hole isn’t work-
ing, he has another and another to try. He’s also always on the lookout for new f ishing holes,
too. He wants his life to be easy—he’ll f ind the places where the f ish he wants tend to bite, and
that’s where he’ll spend his time.
You must f ind your own personal f ishing holes, your own nichesfor meeting women. A
niche is an event you can go to that ideally does three things:
1.Puts women in front of you. If the yoga class for instance doesn’t have any women in it, or
any women you’d be attracted to, it’s not a niche for you. You want the yoga class, if there is
one, that has at least a few hot women in leotards.
2.Gives you an excuse to interact with these women. A dance concert is probably not a very
good niche, because it doesn’t practically force interaction between the people there—you
can go to the concert and not interact with any women, and they probably aren’t expecting
to be approached and spoken to. A dance classhowever, could be a niche—the other stu-
dents will have to interact with you during various exercises, and it wouldn’t be unexpected
if you were to talk with them.
3.It’s an entry point into a community that includes women. The ideal niche is not just a “one-
off ”—it’s a way to get involved with a group of people. The yoga class, for instance (and we
are not recommending yoga classes above anything else, it’s just an example), could lead to
getting involved in the yoga community, going to pot-lucks, and meeting f it, open-minded
women. Going to a personal growth training could be an intro into other group activities,
where you get to meet and interact with women. New age stuff can be a niche, were you

meet open-minded new-age girls, and get involved in a community of people. A church may
be such a niche for you, that gets you into a community. Going dancing at ‘80s night at the
local bar is not a niche the f irst time you do it, but it may become one if you become a “reg-
ular” and get to know the crowd there. Ditto for coffee shops or bookstores. Once you are a
regular, and the women who go there regularly have seen you again and again, you become
safer, in their minds, and it’s less strange when you approach them.
So what are some examples of niches? That will vary from man to man, and area to area.
We’ve posted a list of about a hundred possible niches for you to explore at
http://www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/08/body.shtml
To f ind your niches, you’ll need to make a habit of getting whatever weekly paper in your
area has a social calendar, and looking it over for events you could go to that meet at least two
of the three criteria for a niche. Then put several of them into your date book. When the time
comes, GET OFF THE COUCH and go to them. It may feel awkward the f irst few times you go
to a new possible-niche—after all, these people may know each other, and you may spend some
time just drifting, or feeling a bit left out. Just know that this is normal, say hi to people (espe-
cially women!) and make what conversation you can. Be patient, have some faith—it takes time
for everyone to feel like they f it in when they explore a new community.
Go for it! Find your niches, f ind your “f ishing holes,” and meet women!
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