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have less sex than married people \
do. The
simple reason for this is that married people have access to a sex partn\
er, while
singles do not. In a recent survey of single 30-year-olds, 19 percent sa\
id that they
had not had sex in over a year. Here's how many married women in their 3\
0s are
having sex during 1 year:
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How Busy Is the Married Woman's Sex Life?
The key to having sex as much, or as little, as you want is finding a pa\
rtner who
wants the same amount as you do. A marriage certificate or the fact that\
you share
a bed with someone doesn't guarantee that you'll be satisfied with your \
sex life.
You may be single, living with your lover, or dating so that you see eac\
h other
every day and having as much sex as you want to be having. But generally\
,
married couples do have sex more than single people.
Young or Old: Does It Make a Difference?
People are sexual beings from birth to death. Throughout life, people ar\
e sexually
expressive, even if they are not sexually active. Children “play doct\
or” to explore
sexuality, or masturbate for a sexual release. Teens experiment with “\
heavy
petting” and sometimes with intercourse.
Many adults believe that young people shouldn't be having sex, even thou\
gh
many of them experimented during their own teenage years. In fact, altho\
ugh
some parents today had sex in their teen years, they still tell their ch\
ildren to wait
until they are over 18 or married.

So when is the right time for people to start having sex? I believe that\
people are
too young to have sex if they can't deal with the physical and emotional\
consequences of sex. But that's all very individual. There are some 16-y\
ear-olds
who can deal with having sex, and, on the other hand, there are some 30-\
year-olds
who still can't. The best time to start having sex is when:
• you feel ready and you're confident sex is the right thing for you.\
• you will use birth control and condoms responsibly every time you h\
ave sex.

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• you would be able to know what to do if an unintended pregnancy or \
sexually
transmitted disease did occur.
• you can evaluate your partner to see if you are compatible.
• you will be able to cope with your emotions, knowing if you need to\
be in love
to have sex, and able to accept it if your partner loves you forever, or\
if your
partner hits the road immediately after orgasm.
Maybe you think that teens and twentysomethings have tons of sex because\
they
are so young, virile, and sexually charged. However, that assumption is \
not
always true. Many young people are singles, so they don't have anyone to\
have
sex with.
The good news about growing up is that you also grow up sexually. More m\
en
last longer and more women enjoy orgasms as they get older. The more you\
have
sex, the more you learn about sex, and the more amazing your sex becomes\
.
Getting older and wiser has its benefits in bed too!

The biggest factors that affect the frequency of sex in your life have t\
o do with the
changes in your life. As a teen, you probably still lived at home, with \
little
privacy for sexual encounters. Even after you started living on your own\
, dorm
rooms or shared apartments also made it difficult for those oh-so-intima\
te
moments. Adults usually have the most time and privacy for sex. Yet as y\
ou
become more established in life (for example, as part of a two-career c\
ouple with
children) you may often be too busy or too tired to find time for sex. \
Therefore,
throughout your life, your sex life will constantly be changing. Young o\
r old, you
can have amazing sex, as long as you have the willing partner, the time,\
the place,
and the ability.
There's More Than One Reason to Have Sex
When I ask people why they have sex, most often they say, “Because it\
feels
good.” However, if you really think about it, there are dozens of rea\
sons why
people have sex: Different people, in different relationships, in differ\
ent
situations, and different stages of life all have sex for different reas\
ons. Following
is a list (in no particular order) of some reasons why people have sex\
. By putting
an X in the boxes that apply to you, use this as a worksheet to help you\
rself
decide which are good reasons for you to have sex and which are bad reas\
ons.

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Why Should You Have Sex?
SOME REASONS
WHY YOU MAY
HAVE SEX THIS WOULD NEVER
BE A GOOD REASON
FOR YOU TO HAVE
SEX THIS WOULD
DEFINITELY BE A
GOOD REASON FOR
YOU TO HAVE SEXTHIS MIGHT
POSSIBLY BE A
GOOD REASON
SOMEDAY
Because You Are in
Love
     
Because It's Part of Your
Commitment     
To Get Pregnant     
Because You Feel Lust     
To Feel Younger     
To Feel More Mature     
To Make Your Partner
Feel Desired     
To Put on a Show for the
Neighbors     
To Have