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roadmap of life itself. Their
bodies hold promise of hidden delights. Their spirits reach out in too-long denied explosive passion.
These are uncut gems, their charm not yet set aglow by a lover, their eyes glinting with hidden
meanings, their depths undiscovered.
Fat women are round and cuddly. Lush and sensuous, warm and accepting, they radiate love. Their
endless flowing curves, impossible to encompass save by caress, express the very essence of femaleness.
Soft and yielding, ever so much more squeezable than their sharp-edged bony sisters, they submerge
you in their embrace, their embrace, oh, so sweet, the Primeval Ocean, the source of life.
Older women make better lovers
, as celebrated in song and folklore. Their life skills uplift shy
youthful lovers past barriers of fear and inexperience. Unexcelled as nurturers and teachers, they
bestow patience and understanding. They care.

13 Single mothers make wonderful companions. Children are the great equalizer in the dating game, and
classy women who might otherwise not even give you a second glance find you attractive if you are not
put off by their children. These are mature women, experienced in the ways of life, insightful, less
likely to judge you by superficial appearance and dismiss you because you do not fit the mold of a
sociable fun-loving guy. This is an opportunity... and a grave responsibility. If you accept the woman,
you must likewise accept her children, as they must accept you.
Handicapped women overflow with boundless love. Forging vast inner resources to cope with physical
infirmity, they infuse strength annealed with compassion into a relationship. Having suffered, but not
shattered, flamed but not burned, cried but not despaired, they bear hope and healing to the fortunate
men who find them.
Women of different races and cultures blend an aura of the exotic with a tinge of the forbidden.
Diversity adds color to a relationship, and a touch of the strange lends spice and excitement to the
flowering of intimacy.
Rising within women's eyes
Is the love men must return.
Louise Bogan

You may want a conventionally beautiful woman hanging on your arm, one you could proudly show
off to friends and family as a mark of personal achievement, a trophy, a status symbol. What you need
is closeness and honesty in an intense, emotionally supportive relationship. Look for a real woman, a
woman who, like yourself, has experienced pain and rejection because she does not conform to
society's standards of appearance. Look for a woman whose beauty is more than skin-deep.


She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies.
Lord Byron
Redefining Roles
Creative self-defense against the system requires stepping outside it. As a shy person, you already have
the advantage of being an outsider. The perceptual prison of traditionalism need not bind and limit
you, rather, it can be used to your advantage.
You, the shy person, have been assigned a role, a mask to wear, by your social group. Left in the
background, pushed aside by your more aggressive
peers in competition for mates, treated as a
"younger brother" by eligible women, you cannot help seeing yourself as victim. Stop. Take a hand in
the writing of the story, not just in the acting.
Graciously accept the role
of a safe, non-threatening friend. Be the confidante, the shoulder to cry on,
the sympathetic listener. Observe, listen, and learn. Stay aloof from the role playing, the manipulative
mating behavior of the other inmates of the asylum. When your time comes, and it will, you'll have
grown into the persona of the wise man, the healer, the "elder statesman", the giver of love. And to the
giver shall be given.

14 Behold the answer to the age-old question, how can I make her love me?
You cannot.

She will love you, or she will not.
If she loves you, rejoice.
If she loves you not, find another.
All You Really Need To Know About Women
Under a hard shell of indifference and standoffishness, beneath all those protests of self-sufficiency,
there burns a desperate loneliness, a deep hunger for companionship, for someone to talk with, to
share the small delights of everyday life with, for understanding, and yes, for a little tenderness and a
caring touch. This is the ultimate source of every woman's vulnerability, so often exploited by
predators, and it cries out for compassion... and loving.

Reason has moons, but moons not hers
Lie mirrored in the sea,
Confounding her astronomers
But, oh, delighting me.
Ralph Hodgson

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What an enigma is woman. Seldom understood, often abused and reviled, regarded with a mixture of
awe and fear, she is dismissed