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Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger,
and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina.
Take your time.

The receiver can massage her own breasts or may ju st relax and continue breathing deeply. It is helpful
for giver and receiver to look into each other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if
the pressure, speed, depth, etc., needs to be increas ed or decreased. Limit your speaking and focus on
the pleasurable sensations. (It is my experience that too much talking gets one out of their feelings and
diminishes the effects.)

Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and count er-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb
and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly
become very aroused but continue to enc ourage her to just relax and breathe.

Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for
using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra). Very gently explore and
massage the inside of the Yoni/ vagina with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and
sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this is a massage and you're nurturing and
relaxing the Yoni.

With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a "come here"
gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic
bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, the sacred spot (there are many excellent books
that go into detail about this area). Your partner may feel as if they have to urinate or it may be painful or
pleasurable. Again vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back
and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your middle
finger and pinkie. Check with your partner first befor e sticking two fingers into them. Most women should
have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulati on from two fingers. Take your time and be very
gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.

An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert the pinkie of the right hand into her anus. Ask her first
and do not insert your pinkie into her Yoni/vagina after it has been in her anus. Use lubrication and be
very gentle.

(In Tantra, it is said that when your pinkie is in her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her
Yoni/vagina, and your thumb on her clitoris, "You are hol ding one of the mysteries of the universe in your
hand.")

So, what is your left hand doing all this time? You c an use it to massage the breasts, abdomen, or clitoris.
If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use your thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of your
hand resting on and massaging the mound. The dual stimul ation of right and left hands will provide much
pleasure for the receiver. I do not recommend using y our left hand to touch your own genitals because it
may take your focus off the receiver. Remember, th is massage is for her pleasure and much of the benefit
comes from not only the physical stim ulation but the intent as well.

Continue massaging, trying different speeds, pre ssures and motions. Keep breathing and looking into
each other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep breathing and be
gentle. Many women have been sexually abused and need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient
partner can be of great value to her.

If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may
occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave." Many women can learn how to
be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni Massage and a very patient partner.

Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very sl owly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands.
Allow her to just lay there and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very
soothing as well. As you