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The Yoni Massage (for Women)
My wife and I have practiced Tantra/Sacred Sex for several years and have received much joy from the
techniques and processes. One of my wife's favorite and frequently requested sexual activities is the Yoni
Massage. It has greatly expanded our sex life, brought us closer and has given me a greater appreciation
of women. We've taught the technique to many of our friends and they too have enjoyed good results from
it. I offer it here and hope it enhances your sex life. Enjoy.
BACKGROUND INFO
Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the v agina that is loosely translated as "Sacred Space"
or "Sacred Temple." Its meaning and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female
genitals (i.e., Pussy, Cunt, Twat, etc., words wh ich may or may not be complimentary depending on the
intent of their usage). In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially
helpful for men to learn.

The purpose of the Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a
state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) experiences the
joy of being of service and witnessing a special momen t. The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of
safer sex (when latex gloves are used) and is an exce llent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some
massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through sexual blocks or trauma.

The goal of the Yoni massage is not orgasm. Orgas m is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The
goal is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this perspective both receiver and giver
can relax, and not have to worry about achieving some thing. When orgasm does occur it is usually more
expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm is allowed to happen or not happen.

It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return. Just allow the receiver to enjoy the massage
and to relax into herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it should be entirely the
receiver's choice. This perspective will build greater intimacy and trus t, and will greatly expand your sexual
horizons.
PREPARATION
Bathing is always helpful as it relaxes both the rece iver and giver. A quiet space is desirable with pleasing
music, candles, pillows, etc., or whatever makes the participants rela x and feel safe. Allow yourself
enough time and do not hurry through the process.

Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best results will occur when the bowels and
bladder are empty and you will avoid the unnecessary experience of interrupting the massage to go to the
bathroom.

Connect with your partner by hugging, holding, eye gaz ing (looking into each other's eyes for an extended
time), or whatever brings you to a place of safety and relaxation.
PROCEDURE
Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up
at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart
with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly
exposed for the massage.

The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers' legs. The giver may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion.
This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body.

Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed br eathing. Both giver and receiver should remember
to keep breathing deeply, slowly and with relaxation dur ing the entire process. The giver will gently remind
the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not
hyperventilating, is very important here.

Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to get the receiver to relax and for the giver to
prepare for touching the Yoni.

Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it
drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of t he Yoni. (Several excellent sexual lubricants are
available for this. Many lingerie shops, sex toy shops , sex magazines, etc., offer these safe lubricants.)

CAVEAT - Do not mix oil-based products with latex.

Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here and do not rush.