Women FAQ

Questions & Answers
Women: FAQ
Q: Where can I meet women?
A: Just about anywhere. Location is really not too
important. The obviously blatant pick up places like clubs
and bars will have more potentially available women but
that scene is also difficult to succeed in if you have no pick
up skills. When starting out, you can use those places as
practice. Think of it as a game where winning or losing
doesn't matter - it's the fun of seeing what responses you
get that's important. Anywhere you find a woman that
attracts you is a great opportunity to say something new,
different. Study the responses, adjust your responses from
past results and eventually you'll see that women can be
met anywhere - the trick is attracting them once you find
them.
Q: How do I approach women?
A: Quickly and without hesitation. The more you think
about what you want to say and how you want to say it, the
more likely it is that you'll discourage yourself from the
actual approach. You must act so quickly that you don't
have time to think. Say the first thing that comes to mind. If
nothing comes to mind say "Hi, I noticed something about
you..." Then pause and wait for her to say "What? What did
you notice?" (women are intensely curious when such a
comment is made to them). The few seconds it takes her to
get impatient and ask you what you noticed is probably
enough time for you to take a closer look at her and
actually find something to say. "I noticed you're halfway
through the book you're reading - what's it about?" or "I
noticed the deep tan you have - did you just come back
from a tropical vacation?" Whatever - anything that could
possibly lead to a continued conversation. The more
answers you're able to get out of her, the more questions
you end up being able to ask until eventually a full blown
conversation takes place and you get a better opportunity to
create rapport with her - a connection.

Q: How can I hide my nervousness around a woman? How can I fix my
shyness?
A: What makes you nervous is taking yourself too
seriously and thinking too much about what she thinks (or
will think) of you. Shyness can't be fixed or hidden - you
simply have to disregard the negative thoughts your mind is
telling you. Approaching women quickly, more often, and
without thinking about what you're going to say first will
strengthen your resolve over time and deminish those types
of thoughts running through your mind. Never approach a
woman thinking "I must absolutely make a good first
impression or she'll never..." Instead think, "I wonder what
she'll do when I tell her X, Y , or Z" and don't worry so
much that she might not respond the way you want - most
women won't. At least not until you've gained rapport and a
chance to lead the onversation (and her) in the direction
you want to go.
Q: How does height (or generally the way one looks, or how old one is)
influence success with women?
A: It doesn't influence success all that much. Frankly, the
only time it matters is if there are other guys attracting her
attention in the immediate vicinity who are
taller/younger/richer/etc. AND have a personality edge
over you. If you find yourself in those types of situations
too often, you need to improve your personality and
charisma or change your environment when finding women
to pick up.
Q: How can I build and improve my self-confidence and charm?
A: Start simple. Don't try everything you've learned all at
once. Approach many women. Say whatever comes to
mind. Study the responses. Carry it as far as you can go and
if it doesn't work out, find another woman and try again.
Over time, not only will you learn how to quickly gain
rapport with almost any woman, you'll aslo gradually gain
confidence, quick-thinking for immediate conversation
starters, and the ability to stretch "fluff talk" long enough to
elicit her values (her value words) which can then help you
lead the conversation. For example, if she says "I like
bright colors..." or "It's a really bright day out..." then you
can ask "What is it about bright, colorful things that you
like so much? She might respond "They remind me of my
youth - carefree times". Then you can lead the conversation
into things that associate you with memories of her youth,

and reinforce the idea that you are a carefree person.
Practice methods like this over and over with different
woment until it becomes part of your nature. You will then
have self-confidence and charm without ever thinking
about it.
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