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traits that suggest
he’s been made to submit to the will of other men in some way.
Read that last sentence again and study it until sinks all the way to the bottom.
Men who act in a way that denotes a low pecking order status did not get that way by
being “pussywhupped” by women... they got that way by being subjugated to the will
other men. What do I mean by that? Well, men compete for status against each other in
all manner of subtle and overt ways in life, sports, school, the military, the workplace and
even in families. There is a sorting and grading process that takes into account physical
power, looks, intelligence, popularity, a willingness to take risks and economic status, in
the earlier part of our lives. It graduates into a display of financial wealth and position in
the workplace, achievements, accolades, community prominence and possibly career or
political fame as we move into middle age and beyond. I’m sure you know what I’m
talking about.
Different levels of male status produce different types of distinctive behaviors and
attitudes that are commonly recognized... i.e., the high status male will typically display
confidence, strength of character, generosity, likability, charisma and so forth.
Meanwhile, the low status male is typically very angry due to being stepped on all his
life and ordered around everywhere he goes. He will lack confidence, avoid eye contact,
seem either desperate and needy (or aloof and bitter), can be controlling and obnoxious,
and will have generally developed some kind of an annoying personality. The important
thing to realize is that all these attitudes are formed in response to a lifetime of
conditioning (either positive or negative) by the actions of other men, not
women.
So women have learned to “read” these attitudes and personality quirks in order to
understand just where a man fits on the male dominance scale, possibly in order to help
them determine what kind of potential provider he might be for her children. And

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they’re damn good at it! Conversely, men get a sense of a woman’s potential to bear
healthy children by looking for signs of physical attractiveness, which are primarily signs
of youthfulness and fertility... 70% hip-to-waist ratio, big eyes plus small chin (childlike
face), smooth skin (youth), ample breasts (post-puberty), slim figure (more childlike
indicators), etc. So we make the exact same kind of judgements about women, but using
a different criteria that plays into our different strategy for reproduction.
Which is all that “maleness” and “femaleness” really represents in nature, you
know... two diverse yet complimentary strategies for reproduction. You see, men have
plenty of sperm to spread around so our strategy involves attempting to inseminate as
many females as we possibly can until we drop dead. Sheer chance will then assure that
some of them will survive and prosper and become world leaders or major league
baseball pitchers, and the more and varied the females that we can inseminate the greater
our chances of successfully spreading our genes around become. Society doesn’t like our
biological strategy any more. They feel it’s corrupt and have instituted something called
marriage to put a stop to it.
Women on the other hand, faced with the daunting task of actually rearing the
children produced in their bodies, need to find a male of some character who is willing to
provide resources and protection for her brood over a long period of time. And, unlike
most other mammals, women don’t know exactly when they go into heat (estrus) either,
so they need to husband a male to inseminate them on a regular basis in order to stand a
good chance of becoming pregnant. Society admires and honors the female reproductive
strategy. They feel it’s righteous and have instituted something called marriage to
promote it.
These differences in biological imperatives are the source of much of the “Venus
and Mars”-type conflicts that occur between men and women, but here we’re only
concerned with the way in which females look for the appropriate signs and signals in a
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of an enticing female is our goal here, and so our mission is to understand just exactly
how the game of psychological persuasion is played, and how to play it in a way that
harnesses our energies in a positive way instead of letting them run loose in the form of a
paralyzing fear of rejection.
We’ll get into this topic is greater detail later on as we study how to project those
behaviors women find most attractive in men, and how to disguise those that give off the
kind of repulsive signal that virtually assures rejection. Key to this understanding is an
actual definition of these behaviors and what exactly they seem to be communicating to
women on an unconscious level. Seduction is really