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PROCESSION. See WEDDING PROCESSION.

ANGLICAN CHURCH ARCHBISHOP. See ARCHBISHOP.

ANGLICAN CHURCH BISHOP. See BISHOP.

ANNIVERSARIES--WEDDING. These are as follows:
First year...................Paper
Fifth year.................Wooden
Tenth year ..................Tin
Twelfth year.............Leather
Fifteenth year ..........Crystal
Twentieth year.............China
Twenty-fifth year.........Silver
Thirtieth year ............Ivory
Fortieth year.............Woolen
Forty-fifth year............Silk
Fiftieth year............ Golden
Seventy-fifth year...... Diamond
Less attention is now paid than formerly to all those before the silver
wedding. For specific information, see SILVER WEDDING, TIN

WEDDING, etc.

ANNOUNCEMENT--ENGAGEMENT. See ENGAGEMENT
PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT.

ANNOUNCING GUESTS--BALLS. The hostess decides whether or
not the guests are to be announced. At public balls it is customary.

ANSWERING INVITATIONS. See under FUNCTIONS, as
DINNERS, INVITATIONS, etc.

APPLES should be pared, cut into small pieces, and eaten with finders
or forks.

ARCHBISHOP OF ANGLICAN CHURCH--HOW ADDRESSED. An
official letter begins: My Lord Archbishop, may it please your Grace,
and ends: I remain, My Lord Archbishop, your Grace's most obedient
servant.
A social letter begins: My dear Lord Archbishop, and ends: I have the
honor to remain, my dear Lord Archbishop.
The address on the envelop is: The Most Reverend, His Grace the
Archbishop of Kent.

ARCHBISHOP OF ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH--HOW
ADDRESSED. An official or social letter begins: Most Reverend and
Dear Sir, and ends: I have the honor to remain your humble servant.
The address on the envelope is: The Most Reverend John J. Wilson,

Archbishop of Kent.

ARTICHOKES are eaten with the fingers, taking off leaf by leaf and
dipping into the sauce. The solid portion is broken up and eaten with a
fork.

ASPARAGUS. The stalks may be taken between the finger and the
thumb, if they are not too long, or the green end may be cut off and
eaten with a fork, scraping off with the knife what is desired from the
remaining part.

AT HOMES.
AFTERNOON AT HOMES. The days for receiving are engraved in the
lower left hand corner of the card, with hours specified if one wishes.
No changes should be made in these hours by the hostess unless for
exceptional reasons, and she should always be present at the time set.
Unless very intimate, the call should be made only on the specified
days.
BACHELORS. It is not customary for a bachelor to use "At Home"
cards as a woman does, nor to invite his friends by writing a date and
Music at four on his calling-cards in place of an invitation.
DRESS. In the afternoon the caller should wear afternoon dress, and in
the evening evening dress.
ACKNOWLEDGING INVITATIONS. Invitations to an ordinary at
home need no acknowledgment.
INVITATIONS. Cards for an "At Home" are engraved with the hour
for beginning the entertainment--as, Chocolate at 4.30 o'clock. The

invitations to a formal "At Home" should be sent in two envelopes, but
to an ordinary "At Home" in one envelope. For informal affairs the
hour may be written on an ordinary "At Home" card.

BACHELORS' DINNERS. They follow the usual custom of formal
dinners, and may be as elaborate as desired. Women may be invited.
Such dinners are often given for men only.
CALLS. Women do not call upon a bachelor after attending a dinner
given by him.
CHAPERONE. If women are present, a married woman as chaperone
is indispensable, and her husband must also be invited. The host should
call upon the chaperone and personally request the favor.
The chaperone is taken into dinner by the host, unless the latter takes in
the woman in whose honor the dinner may be given. In the latter case,
the chaperone is seated at the host's left. She gives the signal for the
women to leave the dining-room.
All guests should be introduced to the chaperone, and she should be
called upon after a short time by the host.
DRESS. All guests wear evening dress.
HOST. The host should call upon the chaperone within a few days after
the dinner.
If men only are present, he either precedes or follows the guests into
the dining-room, and if he has given the dinner in honor of some man,
he has the latter seated at his right. His duties are the same as the host
at dinners.
INVITATIONS. These are usually given in brief notes, but may be
engraved, and are similar to the regular invitations to dinners, and are
treated accordingly.

MEN. The men wear evening dress, and follow the same etiquette as at
other dinners.
WOMEN. The women wear evening dress, and follow the same
etiquette as at all dinners, except that no calls are made by them
afterward upon the host.

BACHELOR'S FAREWELL DINNER. If the groom wishes, he may
give a farewell dinner a few evenings before the wedding to his best
man, ushers, and a few intimate friends. He sits at the head