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you must actually do the exercises to really make a difference.

You will notice as you read that we use the terms “he” or “she” in various
instances rather than the awkward “he/she” or “(s)he,” “\
He” and
“she” are used interchangeably to refer to both men and women unless
we are speaking of decidedly male or female situations.

Benefits of Relationship Tantra
As you work with this book, you will continually be encouraged to
reach a higher logical level. You will be invited to be fully present in\

every moment, completely aware of what you are doing and fully immersed
in it. For example, you will not only breathe, you will breathe
intentionally in specific ways. You will not only make love, you will use
Tantric lovemaking techniques in full awareness of what you are doing
and what you want to create. You will learn to dress and undress deliber\
ately,
to speak consciously, to notice the mood you are in, the expression
on your face, your body language, and how these things affect your

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lover and yourself.

If the practice of Tantric sacred loving works for you, as it has for us\

and for many couples, then how you experience each day can be transformed
dramatically. Everything you do will gradually become more
real, regaining a significance that may have gotten lost in your daily
living. You will start to feel connected to your environment, to the people
around you, and to your lover. You will start to feel fully alive, awake\
,
and alert. You will be energized and motivated. Your libido will increase,
perhaps sharply if you had previously been suffering from a lack of sexual
desire. You may feel such strong desire for your lover that you leave
work early to come home for a surprise visit of passionate lovemaking,
even though you have been married for years.

You may notice that you start to hum and sing and whistle again
with the sheer happiness of your being. You will start to think creative\
ly
and apply this in your art, your family, your business, and your community.
You will be delighted and amazed at the moments of “Aha!” as
your deeper consciousness offers up solutions to problems you have
been struggling with. Your face will glow and your spirit will radiate an
inner beauty that magnetically attracts the people around you. Laughter
will return to your life. You will start playing and having fun. You may
even allow yourself to be foolish, acting like a kid again. You will smile.
You will want to get out of bed in the morning and you will want to get
back into it with your lover. You will experience the pleasure and conne\
ction
you have dreamed of.

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Excerpt from Chapter 1: Relationship as Spiritual Practice
“Someday, after we have mastered the winds,
the waves, the tide and gravity, we shall harness
for God the energies of love. Then, for the
second time in the history of the world, man
will have discovered fire.”
—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Our extraordinary sexual pleasure and intense mystical connection
continued to grow as we went deeper into our Tantric practice. We progressed
steadily, but unevenly, along our sacred sex path—sometimes
making great strides forward, other times falling back. Although our
personal vitality and individual learning capacity affected our headway,
the most noticeable influence came from the state of our relationship.
When we were in sync emotionally and feeling good about each other,
we could often reach the heights of bliss. If issues arose between us or\
if
one of us was preoccupied with something else, the magic would not
happen.

Tantra stresses the importance of conscious awareness and intention,
as well as opening your heart. As we focused on becoming more
aware, we saw that our lives outside the bedroom had a huge impact on
what occurred in it. We realized that if we wanted to connect totally in
our Tantric sex, we had to make our relationship the best it could be—
all the time. After talking it over carefully, we decided to make our
relationship the most important thing in our lives. The only thing of
greater importance is our individual connection with the Divine, but
because our relationship is also our spiritual path, this does not creat\
e a
conflict. It is through our relationship that we come to God and give
love to the world. Putting our intention into practice—daily remembering
and acting on our importance to each other—visibly accelerated
our mastery of Tantric skills. As you commence