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your time elsewhere. In Tantric loving, there is no goal. There
is a purpose, however, and that purpose is union. Every aspect of your
Tantric loving serves that purpose. Your intention is to merge with your

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lover in all aspects—body, mind, heart, and soul—not just body. As you
let go of the goal of orgasms, you actually begin to have more of them.
Tantra is a sure-fire way to keep the purely physical experience of sex \
exciting, new, and fresh for even the most long-term lovers.

Many people experience occasional, spontaneous moments of blissful
oneness with their partner, with nature, with the Divine, during peak
sexual experiences. With practice, you can learn to consciously create
this rapturous spiritual union. As you master moving the sexual energy
between your two bodies, you experience altered states of consciousness \
leading to ecstasy. In order to create enough sexual energy to move
them into euphoric states of Divine connection, practitioners of Tantra
make love for long periods of time, experiencing extraordinary levels of
pleasure along the way. Tantric lovemaking involves conscious breathing,
muscle contraction exercises, sound, visualization, meditation, sensual
massage, sexual play, creating a sacred loving space, and other
rituals. Largely through ceremony and ritual, we access our deepest
consciousness and the soul. This aspect of Tantra, perhaps more than any
other, transforms ordinary friction sex into energy sex and ultimately, if
love is truly present, into what we call soul sex. As John Ruskin expressed
it, “When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.”

Extending far beyond the bedroom, sacred sex helps you open fully
to your partner in trust and love through all facets of your relationshi\
p.
Your relationship itself becomes a vehicle for spiritual growth and personal
awareness. As you learn to open to yourself, to your own inner
lover, you naturally open to others around you. You begin to understand \
that surrender does not mean submission or loss of self, but rather
a loving expansion into something much greater than you.

The techniques and exercises we share in this book are what we
actually do. Our essential approach is neither religious nor dogmatic, but
spiritual. Playfulness is woven into the fabric of our loving—laughte\
r and
lust come hand in hand to the true lovers’ bed. While we cannot guarantee
that what is in this book will be effective for you, it is for us and
for hundreds of couples with whom we have worked. We encourage
you to experiment in order to discover what works and what does not.
Keep the things that do and discard the rest. You have your own inner
guide who knows what is best and what is needed. Pay attention and
trust yourself to find what is right for you. Part of the delight of Tan\
tric
loving is that not only will you feel immediate results, such as more
pleasure and closeness with your lover, but you can also continue to
learn and advance throughout years of practice. Tantra is never-ending
in its potential for personal and spiritual growth.

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Who Should Read This Book?
If you think that sexuality can be more than what you learned in
high school, if you are interested in combining sexuality and spirituality,
if you want to take your relationship to a higher, more spiritual level, if
you want a relationship that satisfies through and through, if you want \
to graduate from falling in love to creating love, and if you want to keep
on creating love as you grow old together, then this book is for you.

Wanting to take your relationship to a higher level does not mean there
is anything wrong with it now. On the contrary, it likely means there is
something very right about it.

This is not a book on finding love or falling in love. Rather, it is a
book about creating love. Because our emphasis is on Tantra in relationship,
both beginners and skilled Tantric practitioners will find value here.
We offer ourselves as a role model for a successful long-term relationship
in which we are each happy, fulfilled, and spiritually awakened.

We help you learn how to:
�Create love together over many years.
� Keep sexual passion very hot to any age.
� Keep focused on your personal growth so that spiritual
(even mystical) experiences are regularly available to both
of you.

Here you will find an abundance of practical tools and techniques
for combining sexuality and spirituality in your daily life. Reading about
Tantric relationships will help to expand your knowledge and awareness, \
but