seen it so many times... and dreamed about it so many times...
about wishing they could be in it... only this is YOUR play... YOUR
moment... and you can just hear all those fans applauding and saying
"go for it, go for it!"... as your see all the expressions on their faces... and
their looks of admiration and wonder...and you get that feeling that you
KNOW this is it.... this is the event... this is what you've been looking for!
And life has been so good to you in offering you this thing you've been
searching for for so long, that you feel you just want to give yourself
and your heart to the situation.
It's like one of those things that could happen maybe once... maybe if you
were REALLY lucky... maybe twice at the most in a lifetime, because
it's so rare and so scarce.
Because you know how you've probably always thought to yourself...
that you always go for the great opportunities.... that when ever a great
opportunity comes up...you know you want to go for it... and you've
always thought that and always known that. And this just FEELS like
one of those opportunities!
(End Pattern)
Ok, let's analyze the pattern piece by piece:
[You know, it's funny how we're just two people
two of you> just two human beings on planet earth [in this world] who
are looking for something special in life... just looking for happiness and to be fulfilled.]
This is known as the Agreement Frame. It moves both you and her and the situation to
a higher, more global, logical level. What is being said is so universal, that it can only be
perceived as true and it establishes an instantaneous air of agreement for the rest of the
pattern.
[And you know, so much of that often comes down to who we have in
our life... who we choose to spend time with. With me... I sincerely
believe that are special relationships can determine so much of
what our happiness will be.]
Again, things that are almost universally true. Also links you with the idea of "special
people in our lives." 'Special people' being equated with a degree of benefit and
happiness in her life and sets the idea for "special relationships."
[So I'm just curious... what is it that's important to *you* in a
relationship? (emphasize you)]
The start of eliciting her criteria for a relationship. This is a VERY important step,
as not only will it GIVE you the roadmap of what a relationship is to her, if done
right, it will foster a PROFOUND sense of connection and rapport simply by her
having to GO INSIDE AND ANSWER THE QUESTIONS. She has probably NEVER
had a man talk to her like this before and you will GREATLY stand out in her mind
as being able to provoke a very powerful emotional response in her. This deep sense
of rapport with smoothly pave the way for the rest of the pattern.
[Wow! The way you put that is so true and something about it
just feels so right.
Look, do think you'd want to think of a hypothetical or just a
pretend situation with me that might be sorta fun and interesting?]
This sets her up for the 'As If' frame and further prepares her to be time distorted, an
EXTREMELY powerful technique for getting around resistance. There is no worry on her
part, as it's all "just pretend" :)
[HER: Sure, what is it?
Ok, great. Do you think you could imagine a time in your future,
you and I being together in some way?
HER: Yeah, I think I could imagine it.
Well, I'd like you to imagine for a moment that we're in the future,
say six months or a year from now, and somehow we've managed
to fall in love with each other... (slight chuckle and grin as if you know
you're just pretending) and as we feel that sense of love... we know that
what we have is just unrestricted... no rules... no boundaries... because
as we're together with that special love
for each other... we know it's because there's such a total commitment
there... a commitment for each other. Can you picture that as something
that might be nice to have?
HER: Yes, it would probably be great.
I think so too! I know we're just pretending and all, but, as you continue
to think about a future like that... maybe you
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