who we choose to spend time with. With me... I sincerely
believe that are special relationships can determine so much of
what our happiness will be.
So I'm just curious... what is it that's important to *you* in a
relationship? (emphasize you)
(At this point, elicit her deepest criteria for a relationship and
REMEMBER the answers; strong phrases and trance words, it will be
important later in the pattern! --- for the sake of this example let`s say
that her criteria for a relationship are trust ----> means total and
complete commitment -----> means absolutely no boundaries or
rules in a relationship ------> means true love).
Wow! The way you put that is so true and something about it
just feels so right.
Look, do think you'd want to think of a hypothetical or just a
pretend situation with me that might be sorta fun and interesting?
HER: Sure, what is it?
Ok, great. Do you think you could imagine a time in your future,
you and I being together in some way?
HER: Yeah, I think I could imagine it.
Well, I'd like you to imagine for a moment that we're in the future,
say six months or a year from now, and somehow we've managed
to fall in love with each other... (slight chuckle and grin as if you know
you're just pretending) and as we feel that sense of love... we know that
what we have is just unrestricted... no rules... no boundaries... because
as we're together with that special love
for each other... we know it's because there's such a total commitment
there... a commitment for each other. Can you picture that as something
that might be nice to have?
HER: Yes, it would probably be great.
I think so too! I know we're just pretending and all, but, as you continue
to think about a future like that... maybe you could just see us doing all
those special things together, and just knowing and feeling, deep inside...
now, that we have that complete trust in a relationship? Do you know
what I mean?
HER: Yes, definitely!
Well, again, I'm just curious about something. If we *really did* feel this
way about each other in the future (express the words *really did* as if
implying facetious doubt) and you were to look back at today
or finger on table-top or whatever> as having been the start of all that...
I'm just wondering... what was the very first thing that caused you to
feel this way? Was it something you saw, heard or felt?
HER: Hmmm, well it was something I heard I think. It was the sound of
your voice and what you said kinda.
Great. Ok, so after you heard that voice, what was the very next thing
you experienced that caused you to feel this way? Something you saw
or felt, or maybe heard again?
HER: No.. I saw you look at me in a certain way, it just let me knew
somehow that this was all happening...
Really!... must have been a pretty unique and special look as you think
about it So you heard me say these things in a certain way... and
then I looked at you in a special way.... so, if anything, was there a very
next thing that you might have heard, saw or felt which gives you this
feeling, now, as you think of that?
HER: Hmmm... no, not really... at that point I just FELT that I knew
it was all for real!
(at this point her strategy for reaching her deepest criteria has been
met and you need go no further unless she has not yet reach the state.
Remember that her strategy for this is A - V - K (auditory, visual,
kinesthetic. Remember that at this point she is DEEPLY in state.
Now you need to SOLIDIFY and future pace the state)
Well, now, if you were to imagine that you were at a perfect place...
like your ideal dream spot...just the perfect place where we were
together in that special way....and you know how everybody talks about
the 15 minutes of fame...only this is a LIFETIME of fame...
And in this special place... this is like YOUR special moment... almost
as if all the eyes of the world are upon you... you know... almost like
an event that is so rare and so famous that EVERYBODY goes
to see it.... like maybe a famous musical or a play on Broadway... and all
the fans that go there just know EVERYTHING about this play... because
they've
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