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in a nice
way so that I felt easier.
Testing for a sexually transmitted infection
usually involves a blood test and an
examination. This might seem embarrassing
but GUM clinic staff do these tests and
examinations all the time and are used
to how people feel. It is important to
see someone if you do have a sexually
transmitted infection. Untreated sexually
transmitted infections can be passed on
to other people and can cause serious
illnesses or make it impossible for a
woman to get pregnant.
If you have a sexually transmitted
infection you don’t have to tell your
family. You definitely should tell anyone
you’ve had sex with so they can find
out if they have it too. Some infections
can be in the body for a long time
without showing. So if you have had
sex with more than one person it might
have come from a previous partner. If
you have a sexually transmitted infection
it is important not to have sex before it
is treated.

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QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX
WILL IT HURT
THE FIRST TIME?
Girls especially might wonder if it will
hurt the first time they have sexual
intercourse with a boy. It can hurt and
some girls do bleed a little bit. If a girl
is sexually excited and relaxed her vagina
will probably be moist enough for a
boy’s penis to go in without hurting.
The vagina is very stretchy and, if a boy
and girl have sexual intercourse, usually
only part of the penis is inside the vagina.
The average penis is between eleven and
eighteen centimetres long when it is erect.
The bleeding usually occurs because the
girl has a hymen which breaks at first
intercourse. The hymen is a small piece
of thin skin which goes across the
opening of the vagina and protects it
when she is young. It has some gaps in
it where the blood can come out when
she has her period. Sometimes a girl
might have already broken her hymen
without even knowing.
DO WE NEED TO USE
CONTRACEPTION THE
FIRST TIME?
Yes, because a girl can get pregnant
the first time she has sexual intercourse.
It can be especially difficult to get
contraception organised for the first
time you have sexual intercourse. Some
people say that if they buy condoms or
go on the pill before the first time it
seems as though they had already
decided and were planning to have sex.
This isn’t necessarily true. It is just
being prepared for when you do decide
it is the right time.
CAN A GIRL BECOME
PREGNANT EVEN IF SHE
DOESN,
t HAVE SEXUAL
INTERCOURSE?
Yes. If a boy’s penis goes near to a girl’s
vagina there may be sperm in the fluid
which comes out the boy’s penis before
he ejaculates. This can lead to pregnancy
or a sexually transmitted infection.
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SHOULD I TELL OTHER PEOPLE?
Some people talk to others about their
sexual experiences, especially losing
their virginity, as it makes them feel
grown up. This is not a good reason to
tell other people. You might want to tell
close friends or someone in your family,
especially if you have questions. But
sexual relationships are private between
two people and you should consider why
you are telling anyone.
WHAT DOES SEX FEEL LIKE?
Similar things happen to most people’s
bodies when they have sex – they get
sensitive and warm and excited and may
have an orgasm. Enjoying sexual activities
with another person is possible whether
you have an orgasm or not. Not being
able to have an orgasm with another
person doesn’t mean that you don’t
fancy them or love them. Your
emotions
might be different each time you have a
sexual experience depending on the
circumstances.
Having sex can be one of the most
intense and pleasurable physical and
emotional experiences a person can
have. But it won’t always be wonderful.
HOW LONG DOES SEX LAST?
It depends what you mean by sex.
Sex can last any amount of time.
A boy might find he comes very quickly
the first time he has sexual intercourse.
Usually sexual intercourse
lasts longer as
people get more experienced
and know
what to expect. But with a new partner
it can take time for people to get used
to each other. Also every time people
have sex it is different, depending on
how they feel and what they want.

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IS IT NOISY?
Only if you want it to be! Some people
do make noises when they having sex.
They might moan or groan with pleasure
or even cry out. Some people talk to each
other. Others don’t speak or make any
noise. But your body might make noises
that you can’t help – squelching and
squishing. These might be embarrassing
or funny, but they are perfectly normal.
HOW OFTEN
DO PEOPLE DO IT?
Sexual appetite is entirely a matter of
personal taste. Some people have sex
once a day and others once a month. It
probably varies for most people depending
on whether they are in a relationship,
how busy they are and how they feel.
Most people think about sex far more
often than they do it.
WHAT IS ORAL SEX?
Oral sex is when one person licks or
sucks another person’s penis or vagina.
When oral sex is done to a man it is
sometimes called a blow-job. When it is
done to a woman it is sometimes called
licking out. If two people have oral sex
with each other at the same time it is
sometimes called a 69 because of the
shape their bodies make.