How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed | Page 8

you are
trying to sell, and they will read your whole ad no matter what the headline
says.

The rest of the readers could care less. They are busy flipping pages, trying to
get to the comics section or the sports page. They will only stop if something
grabs their attention.

So it is with the average chick. In a few lucky situations, your looks alone
will snag her. But the rest of the time you won't have much chance of selling
your product unless you grab her attention and grab it fast. (I know, you want
to grab something else, but that comes later. Animal.)

Below are some of the best ways to grab a girl's attention. Keep them in mind as
you read the next few chapters.

Humor
Appealing to her curiosity
Putting an unusual or unexpected twist on an old, cliche pick-up
Role playing
Faking like you already know her
Appealing to her ego
Showing outrageous balls or guts

Chapter Eight

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET
FEEL LIKE SHE'S MET THE MAN OF HER DREAMS

The next step after you've got her attention is to introduce yourself and get
her name. I hope you are smart enough to do that without my advice.

Then you've got to create the illusion of rapport. For those of you who don't
know what rapport means, the dictionary defines it as: "Accord, affinity,
relations marked by harmony."

The techniques you use to create rapport will vary according to the type of
pick-up you are using. Of course, we've already gone over the proper way to use
your tone of voice.

Here are two other very sneaky and powerful ways to create rapport with a woman.
You should use them when you're actually on a date as well as when you first
meet a woman. They take some practice to master, but work quite well.

MIRRORING

There once was a very powerful and successful hypnotist by the name of Milton
Erickson. When you are through with this book you may well want to build a
shrine to Erickson, because this man is going to help get you laid more than
having a million dollars cash and a body like Scharwtznegger.

Erickson could hypnotize anyone, even the most resistant patient or client. One
of the ways he did this was by mirroring the breathing of the person he was
hypnotizing.

Now, I'm going to pause for a minute so you can go through your "Bullshit"
reaction. But mirroring someone's breathing is a very powerful way to make them
unconsciously feel in tune with you. Erickson would watch the rate of his
client's breathing and then begin to match it with his own breathing, or with
the pace of his speaking. Or he'd tap his chest with his hand in time to the
persons breathing, and then begin to gradually slow the tapping. The person's
breathing would slow in time to the tapping!

Mirroring works because your unconscious picks up and is aware of things your
conscious mind has no knowledge of. To convince yourself that this is so, try
this experiment:

Get a friend of yours and have them close their eyes. Ask them to keep their
eyes closed, and guess what you are doing.
Stand in front of them, and begin speaking. As you do so, sway your head from
side to side.
Ask them what you are doing.

Of course, they will be able to tell you you are moving your head back and
forth. Now, ask them how they knew they'll tell you they could hear the
difference in how you sounded.

Now, try it again, but this time ask them to keep their eyes open. Ask if they
can hear the difference now, and of course they can't? Actually, they CAN hear
the difference, because they still have the same pair of ears - they just aren't
CONSCIOUSLY aware of it. But unconsciously, you bet they are!

In the same way, if you mirror a chick's breathing, or her tone of voice, or
rate of speaking, or even a particular gesture she uses, on a conscious level
she won't notice. If she does notice on a conscious level, then you are being
too obvious and she's either going to think you are a weirdo or are making fun
of her, and neither of these will score you points.

But if you do it subtly, then all she will know is that for some odd reason she
sure seems to feel right down comfortable with you, old buddy,