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long enough, and has little to do with
sexual activity. This condition is usually not a factor until the man is at
least 40. If you are a younger man and feel discomfort in your prostate,
you might wonder if you already have BHP. This is not likely. Much more
likely is that you are sore because of delaying ejaculation or you may have
some sort of infection.
It is true that as lovemaking progresses, sexual energy builds up in the
prostate and if the man has not learned to move that energy out of the
prostate by circulating it through the rest of his body, that pressure can
cause prostate discomfort. If you feel such discomfort, ejaculate and
discharge the pressure. If discomfort continues after ejaculation has
removed the pressure, see your physician to check for other possible
problems such as infection.
To comfortably practice prolonged lovemaking without ejaculation, a man
must learn to move his sexual energy out of his prostate.
You can use Kegel-style exercises to help you do this. You
can also do prostate massage. It turns out that the same
vibrator with the crook in it that you use to reach the
woman's G-spot, can also be inserted into the man's anus
because it is also perfectly shaped to reach his prostate. It is
interesting to note that the man's prostate and the woman's g-spot are often
referred to as being similar to each other in the pleasure they can allow
you to experience.

If you are not into anal prostate massage, try regularly massaging the
prostate through the skin of your perineum. The perineum is that patch of
skin between the anus and scrotum. Pushing on this spot will enable you
or your partner to stimulate the prostate and will encourage your sexual
energy to move from the prostate up through the rest of your body. This
will make it possible for you to last much longer in intercourse without
ejaculation and will prevent the prostate from getting sore.
If you are already experiencing problems with your prostate, such as BPH
or perhaps even prostate cancer, or you wish to prevent such problems
from arising, we have reviewed a
selection of excellent books with
information about the care and healing of the prostate.
Vibrators/Massagers/Stimulators
These come in an endless variety of shapes, sizes, colors and materials.
Very popular are vibrating
eggs and bullets that can be inserted into the
vagina or anus. Eggs are the shape and size of a small egg. These are
available with or without vibrators and are beautifully painted. They ar\
e
popular now as vaginal exercise aids to help women gain strength and
control over their vaginal muscles. Women who have practiced Kegel
exercises, i.e., repetitive contraction and relaxation of the genital muscles,
including the vagina, sometimes graduate to inserting these vaginal eggs
into the vagina and strengthening their muscles by holding onto the eggs.
She may get strong enough to add weights to the eggs. Imagine your
woman doing vaginal weight lifting!
Bullets are shaped like a bullet and are usually 2-4 inches long. These \
can
easily be carried in a purse or pocket. One variation is a tiny vibrator\
that
fits onto the end of your
fingers. Eggs and bullets also come in gold and
silver metal, for example gold ben wa balls. Prices range from under $10
up to $200.
Some of these toys are a real combination of high touch - high tech. The
higher priced ones offer more precise and variable vibration controls, e.g.,
an LED display shows 10 levels of exact power. These high quality
controllers are compatible with many different vibrators. Prices range
from about $90 up. Generally vibrators made in Japan and Germany are of
significantly higher quality (and price).
There are also many vibrators specifically designed to stimulate the
clitoris (as opposed to being inserted into the vagina or anus) by vibrating
and rotating. Almost all of these vibrators have dual multi-speed controls.
One control rotates within the vibrator shaft. The other engine vibrates\
the
shaft and clitoral stimulator. Some of these vibrators also have beads in

the center of the shaft to enhance the feeling from the inner multi-speed
rotation.
Plug-in or Battery?
Vibrators can be electrical (plug into a wall outlet and may be
rechargeable), may have wireless remote control up to 50 feet away, or
they can be powered with batteries. Electric vibrators provide a better \
quality alternative to battery-powered vibrators, with stronger vibratio\
ns,
warrantees, will last for years, and are much more expensive. Battery
powered vibrators tend to be more versatile, more portable, offer softer
vibrations, and are much less expensive. Hard plastic battery vibrators
tend to be louder than soft rubber vibrators. If it is