Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young

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Title: Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young
Or, The Principles on Which a Firm Parental Authority May Be
Established and Maintained, Without Violence or Anger, and the Right
Development of the Moral and Mental Capacities Be Promoted by
Methods in Harmony with the Structure and the Characteristics of the
Juvenile Mind
Author: Jacob Abbott
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[Illustration: AUTHORITY.]

GENTLE MEASURES
IN THE
MANAGEMENT AND TRAINING
OF THE YOUNG;
OR,
THE PRINCIPLES ON WHICH A FIRM PARENTAL AUTHORITY
MAY BE ESTABLISHED AND MAINTAINED, WITHOUT
VIOLENCE OR ANGER, AND THE RIGHT DEVELOPMENT OF
THE MORAL AND MENTAL CAPACITIES BE PROMOTED BY
METHODS IN HARMONY WITH THE STRUCTURE AND THE
CHARACTERISTICS OF THE JUVENILE MIND.
By JACOB ABBOTT,
AUTHOR OF "SCIENCE FOR THE YOUNG," "HARPER'S STORY
BOOKS," "FRANCONIA STORIES," "ABBOTT'S ILLUSTRATED
HISTORIES," ETC.
NUMEROUS ILLUSTRATIONS.
Entered according to Act of Congress, in the year 1871,
In the Office of the Librarian of Congress, at Washington.

CONTENTS.



CHAPTER I.
THREE MODES OF MANAGEMENT

CHAPTER II.
WHAT ARE GENTLE MEASURES?



CHAPTER III.
THERE MUST BE AUTHORITY



CHAPTER IV.
GENTLE PUNISHMENT OF DISOBEDIENCE



CHAPTER V.
THE PHILOSOPHY OF PUNISHMENT



CHAPTER VI.
REWARDING OBEDIENCE



CHAPTER VII.
THE ART OF TRAINING

CHAPTER VIII.
METHODS EXEMPLIFIED



CHAPTER IX.
DELLA AND THE DOLLS



CHAPTER X.
SYMPATHY:--I. THE CHILD WITH THE PARENT



CHAPTER XI.
SYMPATHY:--II. THE PARENT WITH THE CHILD



CHAPTER XII.
COMMENDATION AND ENCOURAGEMENT



CHAPTER XIII.
FAULTS OF IMMATURITY

CHAPTER XIV.
THE ACTIVITY OF CHILDREN



CHAPTER XV.
THE IMAGINATION IN CHILDREN



CHAPTER XVI.
TRUTH AND FALSEHOOD



CHAPTER XVII.
JUDGMENT AND REASONING



CHAPTER XVIII.
WISHES AND REQUESTS



CHAPTER XIX.
CHILDREN'S QUESTIONS

CHAPTER XX.
THE USE OF MONEY



CHAPTER XXI.
CORPORAL PUNISHMENT



CHAPTER XXII.
GRATITUDE IN CHILDREN



CHAPTER XXIII.
RELIGIOUS TRAINING



CHAPTER XXIV.
CONCLUSION

ILLUSTRATIONS
AUTHORITY
INDULGENCE
"IT IS NOT SAFE"
THE LESSON IN OBEDIENCE
ROUNDABOUT INSTRUCTION
AFRAID OF THE COW

THE INTENTION GOOD
THE IMAGINATIVE FACULTY
STORY OF THE HORSE
"MOTHER, WHAT MAKES IT SNOW?"
THE RUNAWAY
THE FIRST INSTINCT

GENTLE MEASURES.



CHAPTER I.
THE THREE MODES OF MANAGEMENT.
It is not impossible that in the minds of some persons the idea of
employing gentle measures in the management and training of children
may seem to imply the abandonment of the principle of authority, as
the basis of the parental government, and the substitution of some weak
and inefficient system of artifice and manoeuvring in its place. To
suppose that the object of this work is to aid in effecting such a
substitution as that, is entirely to mistake its nature and design. The
only government of the parent over the child that is worthy of the name
is one of authority--complete, absolute, unquestioned authority. The
object of this work is, accordingly, not to show how the gentle methods
which will be brought to view can be employed as a substitute for such
authority, but how they can be made to aid in establishing and
maintaining it.
Three Methods.
There are three different modes of management customarily employed
by parents as means of inducing their children to comply with their
requirements. They are,
1. Government by Manoeuvring and Artifice.

2. By Reason and Affection.
3. By Authority.
Manoeuvring and Artifice.
1. Many mothers manage their children by means of tricks and
contrivances, more or less adroit, designed to avoid direct issues with
them, and to beguile them, as it were, into compliance with their wishes.
As, for example, where a mother, recovering from sickness, is going
out to take the air with her husband for the first time, and--as she is still
feeble--wishes for a very quiet drive, and so concludes not to take little
Mary with her, as she usually does on such occasions; but knowing that
if Mary sees the chaise at the door, and discovers that her father and
mother are going in it, she will be very eager