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sense this “new and exciting”
wave of pleasure building within her. Watch for the signs of her
uncertainty. When you see these signs, begin reassuring her that
you know what’s occurring and understand it.
(“I know what’s
happening to you. It’s okay. I’m here. Just enjoy what you feel”).
The same thinking holds true with blended orgasms. While we
encourage the pursuit of blended orgasms, don’t overwhelm her
by trying to make the first G-Spot orgasm a “blended G-Spot/
clitoral orgasm”. Take it one step at a time. After she grows
familiar with G-Spot experiences, gaining both confidence and
understanding, she’ll be better suited (if not eager) to explore the
bold world of blended orgasms.
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Intimacy 101
The Merriam-Webster Dictionarydefines the word “intimate” as:
“Marked by very close association, contact, or familiarity;
marked by a warm friendship; suggesting informal warmth and
privacy; of very private and personal nature.”
As illustrated through the above definition, people share inti-
macy with, not only their lovers or sexual partners, but also with
close friends, family members, and even pets.
Since the subject matter of this book deals with inner-couple
relationships, most references to “intimate” or “intimacy” refer to
the bonding, topics of private and personal nature,or the aspects
of carnal knowledgethat occur within a relationship.
This point is being clarified because it’s important to acknowl-
edge that intimacy need not be linked to sex. Intimacy is the shar-
ing of one’s innermost feelings and thoughts with someone we
trust. Not only does it erect temporary buffers to the outside
world, it also provides a brief respite from stress. It staves off
loneliness and promotes our self-worth. Conversations are “mind-
to-mind”; intimacy is “heart-to-heart”.
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The Phenomenon of Female Ejaculation
Beyond intimacy, one other clarification needs to be made
before we start covering the technique. Modern society tends to
propel the myth that G-Spot orgasms and female ejaculation are
the same occurrence. And while the two often do occur together,
it’s important to realize they are separate wonders—not one entity.
For simplification, we’ll explore this topic through a
“question/answer” format:
If G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation aren’t the same,
what exactly is “Female Ejaculation”?
Female ejaculation occurs when a women “ejaculates” fluid
(usually different than urine) from her urethra during sexual
arousal or orgasm.
Where does this fluid come from?
Surrounding the urethra and running to the neck of the bladder
lies a network of glands, ducts, and nerves called the “Skene’s
Paraurethral Glands”. As we mentioned earlier, these glands are
the female counterparts to the male prostrate. The Skene’s Glands
are the source of female ejaculate.
If it’s not urine, what is this fluid?
The fluid is typically described as “clear” or “milky”, having
little or no odor, and a sweet taste. However, as with male secre-
tion, the taste may change due to dietary intake or possibly as
part of the menstruation cycleviii
.
The primary chemical makeup of the fluid is glucose, fructose,
prostate specific antigen (PSA) and prostatic acid phosphatase
(PAP)ix x xi xii
. The fluid may also contain traces of urinexiii
.
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Interestingly enough, fructose is one of the components present
in male ejaculation. Its primary job is to mobilize the spermatozoa.
While it was once believed that male fructose was the sole pro-
pellant of spermatozoa, the presence of fructose in female ejaculate
would evidence the contrary. Instead of passively waiting for
spermatozoa to “swim” to the egg, the female plays an equally
active role in the reproduction process by infusing her own fructose
and ushering the spermatozoa’s movement, thus increasing the
probability for successful fertilization.
Because of this, we feel the physical purpose of female ejacu-
lation is to aid in the mobilization of spermatozoa. And while it
may not be scientifically proven, it stands to reason that stimula-
tion of the G-Spot and the female prostate may be a beneficial
pursuit for couples facing problems with conception.
As another interesting note, early forensic medicine checked
rape victims (and/or spots on their clothing) for the presence of
acid phosphatase, to prove rape had occurred. Research on female
ejaculate has since proven this test has no forensic value since
female ejaculation contains acid phosphatase.
What causes female ejaculation?
Since the G-Spot encompasses the Skene’s glands and the
glands are caressed during G-Spot stimulation, fluid is often
released into the urethra as a result of G-Spot stimulation.
However, G-Spot stimulation is not the sole source of ejaculation.
Some women ejaculate with stimulation of the clitorisxiv xv
.
Do all women ejaculate?
The evidence is inconclusive on whether all women have the
ability to ejaculate. If the presence of fructose is designed to play
an important role in reproduction, one might hypothesize that all
women should have the ability to ejaculate, barring those with
physical anomalies, removed Skene’s Glands, disease, or hereditary
disorders. However, in some studies researchers did not notice
expulsion of fluid during stimulation.
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In the Secrets of Sensual Lovemaking, The Ultimate in Female
Ecstasy, author Leonardi states:“...a combination of physical
technique and psychological security were absolutely necessary
in order for a woman to have ejaculatory orgasms.”Many of the
accounts in Mr. Leonardi’s book indicate the need for a strong
emotional bond to be established prior to successful female ejacu-
lationsxvi
. If this is true, it could explain why some laboratory
studies fail,