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insignificant, remember that knowledge
is a powerful tool. Sometimes the smallest spark can set off the
largest blaze.
The matches are now in your hand.
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Blended Orgasms
A Recipe for Higher Ecstasy
“What are blended orgasms?”
Suppose for a moment that your mate mentally rates a clitoral
orgasm as a “7” and a G-Spot orgasm as a “10”. What would
happen if she felt both of these orgasms at the same time? The
answer is simple: she would experience an (off-the chart) blended
orgasm.
In the early 1970’s, Irving Singer touched upon the concept of
“blended” orgasmsiii
. Thereafter, while studying the continuum
of orgasmic response and the corresponding nerve pathways,
Whipple and Perry validated, defined, and clarified the reality of
“Blended Orgasms”iv
.
In layman’s terms, blended orgasms are two or more orgasms
occurring simultaneously (or in very close rotation). Blended
orgasms originate from multiple sources of simulation. For example,
if you perform cunnilingus as you stimulate your partner’s G-Spot,
she may experience a blended “clitoral/G-Spot” orgasm.
While the two obvious sources for blended orgasms are either
(1) “stimulation of the clitoris and G-Spot” or (2) “stimulation of
the clitoris and vagina”, we need not limit our thinking to only
these two combinations. An orgasm can originate from a variety
of sources. For some women, having the breasts massaged or
nuzzled is very pleasurable and can bring about orgasm. For others,
petting and necking (with or without breast stimulation) can
induce an orgasm. Others reported an orgasm during dreams,
while horseback riding, and even while dancingv
. And for others,
mental imagery alonevi vii
(without any physical stimulation) can
cultivate orgasm.
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Opposite of this, as we discussed in the earlier segment, 12%
of women reported never experiencing any type of orgasm.
Others reported being able to orgasm through only one type of
stimulation, such as clitoral stimulation. Logic would therefore
indicate that not all women are likely to experience blended
orgasms—unless they find new sources or methods of becoming
orgasmic.
We hope the technique you learn from this book will be such a
source; a freshly bloomed rose, filled with sweet nectar.
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To Orgasm, or Not to Orgasm?
That is the question many people ask themselves
during intercourse.
Because you purchased this book, it’s highly probable you
would enjoy seeing your mate experience a “blended orgasm”.
And it warrants mentioning here, your display of unselfishness
and caring is commendable. However, while the thought of seeing
our mate experience a blended G-Spot/clitoral orgasm may be
appealing, we must learn to “walk” before we can “run”.
As we learn to “walk”, the first mental step is learning and
accepting that people choose to orgasm. Deciding to orgasm is a
personal choice. No one can “give” or “will” another person an
orgasm—no more than you could “will” a stranger to remove
their clothing.
We each make individual choices concerning “if” or “when”
we will achieve orgasm—often without conscious deliberation of
the subject. For those who are highly orgasmic, the sheer act of
removing clothing (or allowing it to be removed) may mark the
decision. For others, the decision may not be concluded until
stimulation or coitus is underway and “the waters are tested”,
often mere seconds before orgasm. Others release their reserva-
tions in layers. Like an autumn tree shedding its leaves, they
slowly drop inhibitions, as they grow resoundingly secure and
comfortable with the relationship. And yet others refuse ever to
relinquish control, usually from fear of self-humiliation, or to
avoid appearing too “wanton” or “loose”.
Along the way to making the decision, there are several deter-
mining factors ensconced within the decision-making process. In
order to “let go” and orgasm, most people need to feel secure
with their partner. We need to feel good about ourselves, safe at
the location, and comfortable with what’s happening to our bodies.
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These factors are more prevalent if we’re with a new partner
or trying a new experience. While “new” can be exciting, the
excitement is fueled by the suspense of not knowing what to
expect. And because we don’t know what to expect, we reserve
judgment until late into the process.
All of this is important to consider as you administer the G-
Spot technique. As you may recall, one of the four most common
descriptions we receive about the G-Spot experience is:
“It felt
very different from previous orgasms”.
Because of this, at some
unknown point while you’re applying the G-Spot technique, your
partner will realize something new and very exciting is happening
to her. She will then have to decide whether “to orgasm, or not to
orgasm”.
Deciding whether or not to reveal the G-Spot technique is up
to you. If you tell your mate beforehand of your plans to admin-
ister the G-Spot technique, you may set up to be a victim of
“orgasm anxiety” (discussed later). On the other hand, if she
senses something new and unknown is happening to her (while
you’re applying the G-Spot technique) she may “hold back” and
delay or inhibit the orgasm due to the uncertainty of what she’s
feeling.
It’s a catch-22 situation and you should remember this as you go.
We recommend that you don’t initially mention your plan to
administer the technique. Instead, be aware that at some point
during your administration, she will