David Deangelo - Double Your Dating - Advanced Series Notes - Summary

Disc 2

Persona & social masks. Social masks hide the real self. The “I’m too good for you” look that
models give on cosmo covers is a social mask.
if you want to ‘be yourself’ that’s fine, but firs t you must get past that SOCIAL MASK through
c&f/teasing

Disc 3

External behaviour + Meaning assigned by us = our beliefs

If a belief is limiting you, challenge a nd change the meaning assigned to it!

Reframing limiting beliefs:

• Reframe the external behaviour
• Reframe the internal state
• Counter-example (new way of thinking about it)
• Outcome framing (what’s going to happen if you keep thinking this way?)
• Allness framing (apply as a complete generalization to everything
• Reflexively apply to self or listener
• Chunk down (HOW does this happen specifically? How did you come to the
conclusion/belief?)

Life isn’t fair, you won’t get a fair anything. If life WAS fair, then you’d just have to accept your
place in life and not do anything about it. LI FE’S NOT FAIR, AND THAT’S A GOOD THING.
THAT’S WHERE ALL THE POWER COMES FROM.

Two keys to success in anythi ng: 1) Definite Major Purpose and Constant Improvement

1) When you become PURPOSEFUL, it redirects your mind. New doors open

2) Consistent effort CREATES luck. Betting on lu ck is a really bad game; instead figure out
how to GET your own luck.

YOU are the only one who cares about your success. More often people want to see you fail,
especially if you’re doing be tter than them. Live for YOU.

MASTERY—The land of the Big Boys

Newcomers always want to learn the sexy tric ks. Learn the fundamentals and MASTER them
before applying fancy te chniques in any field.

ASSERTING YOUR REALITY UP FRONT

WHOSE REALITY IS IT? By asserting YOUR reality as the more dominant one, you assume
control of the situation in any interaction. “This is MY reality here, and you’re a guest. If you
don’t like it here, you can leave.”

BELIEFS of successful men

• I don’t let women use their looks or sexual pow er to gain anything from me. There are no
special privileges.
• I’m un self-conscious and couldn’t care less about what others think.
• I put myself and my life first.
• I deserve, have permission to da te, and can hold an exceptional woman
• I’m indifferent to the outcome
• I understand the culture, I get it—style, food, movies, Cosmo, etc
• I’m a good communicator—especially of what I want
• I’m in control, and I don’t let outside events destabilize me
• I’m not needy, I keep my power for ME
• I think sex is great, and I don’ t have any hang-ups about it
• I can control myself and I can wait. I don’t need to take action right now
• I don’t tolerate disrespect to my self, my time, or my property
• I’m a catch
• I judge people based on CHARACTER, not po ssessions or outward physical appearance
• I may be smitten with a woman but I don’ t tell her early on, and I don’t let it slip
indirectly

Reference/Mastermind group

Surround yourself with people who are LIKE th e way you want to be! And surround yourself
with POSITIVE people to avoid a negative mi ndset. Avoid negative influences whenever
possible, like TV news.

Close your eyes and imagine the you that you’d like to be. How are they standing? What kind of
posture does he have? How does he handle situations ? Now, what are some experiences that that
ideal self would’ve had to have been through to reach that state?

Don’t criticize yourself internall y, it’s just not useful (except when you’re really being stupid).
But be NICE to yourself!

SCARCITY is a myth! They’re out there, there’s no need to be stuck on one.

How do you make someone want something? Make it scarce, connect it to something else they
want, make it beneficial, make them work for it, prove that other people want it also, make it a
challenge

Psychological leaning is a sign of insecurity. It reminds people of their own insecurity and
irritates them. Don’t lean! Avoid the “wanting-it tax” . As soon as someone pulls back a little bit,
you pull back a little bit furt her. Never “lean” inwards.

If you ever get a dilemma, pull back, take the more