David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Lover and Provider Personalities | Page 3

into the mode of 'hold off on the sex.'
The other problem is that it's expensive.
Buy yourself a copy of 'The Rules' - the one that's written for women.
This is they type of guy that they're teaching women to trap. So beware.
Daddy (control) Someone who tells her what to do and controls her.

This is another interesting personality type. Some women are very
attracted to controlling men who treat them like little girls. Some women
take this to an extreme and date men much older than them.
I don't know if this is an accurate observation, but a lot of really
attractive, powerful women are attracted to men who control them and treat
them like little girls.
My opinion is that some women get their way all the time from men,
and they don't like it. They resent men who bow down to them, and have no
respect for them. There's a certain sexual energy that comes from being
controlled, and a lot of powerful women are attracted to it.
If you're interested in learning more about this mindset, read the book
'Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns' by Philip Miller. The first 50 or 60
pages are a very interesting discussion of dominance and submission.
Although I don't like to act like a woman's Daddy, I've found that it's very
useful to know how to spot a woman that's testing me - and how to deal
with it.
Daddy personalities are usually attracted to the world of S&M etc. If
you're naturally controlling, then this might be your angle. But be careful.
This is all well and good for a personality, but some Daddy types like to turn
in to Stalkers. If you act like a nut, someone is going to put you in jail
(where you should be).
The Regular Guy (loyalty) Someone who is down to earth, loyal and
stable.
The Regular Guys in the world don't get enough credit in my opinion.
Unfortunately, they also don't get enough women... ha. The fact is, most
Regular Guys wind up in long term relationships with women that are like
them - regular.
Regular guys work hard, mow the lawn and watch a lot of TV. They may
start out being fun and adventurous when they're younger, but they usually
settle into a more boring life because they believe that they can do no better
for themselves - or that it's not worth the effort.
I'm sure you know a bunch of regular guys. They're married with 2.3
kids and a rectangular 3 bedroom, 2 bath house in a subdivision.
Regular Guys may start out in control of a relationship, but in almost
EVERY case I've seen, the woman eventually takes control. The women
starts nagging, telling him what to do, etc.

If you're a Regular Guy, or would like to become one, I'd recommend
adding a little bit of Adventurer and Seducer to the mix. Dress a little better.
Make yourself more fun and interesting, and you'll be able to attract more
interesting women. My book Double Your Dating will help you become FAR
more interesting to women. The chapter on how to be Cocky and Funny will
be Gold to you.
Ass Kissing Guy (her boy) Someone who gives her whatever she wants.
Ass Kissing Guy is my favorite! Ass Kissing Guy follows his woman
around saying "OK honey, whatever you want" and "I'm sorry" and "What's
wrong sweetie?"
Ass Kissing Guy likes to use submissive body language, not look people
in the eye, and act passive aggressive. Ass Kissing Guy actually should be
called Ass Kissing Girly-Man, because he acts kind of like a girl.
Women who are dominant and controlling like to have an Ass Kissing
Guy around as a boyfriend for awhile - sometimes they even marry them.
But it's not a happy life, and I wouldn't recommend it.
If you're an Ass Kissing Guy, then I'd recommend that you spend more
time reading Double Your Dating, and add some Adventurer and Daddy to
your type. It will make your life more enjoyable in the long run.
Now, let me ask you a quesion:
Which one most closely described you? Or which one would you like to
work towards? The interesting benefit of each of these is that the more you
embody the Personality Type, the more interesting you usually become.
Change requires you to learn and improve.
One decision you have to make is "What do you want in a woman?"
You also have to ask yourself whether you're looking for a long-term
relationship or a short one. This is IMPORTANT. If you start taking women to
dinner, buying them gifts, and calling them days in advance to ask them out
on dates you're going to trigger them to respond to you as a Provider. They
will hold back sex, and expect you to demonstrate your ability to provide.
On the other hand, I've found that if you start out as a Lover
Personality, you can always choose to switch later on. So choose wisely.
There's more on this topic in my book Double Your Dating, which you
must read in order to understand this completely.

Now here's a list of UN-successful Personality Types.