David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Critical Moments And Bridges | Page 2

between talking and getting
physical. Most men just don't know how to advance to a physical level. But
I'm getting ahead of myself here. More later.
Bridge To #1, The Approach
Probably the most important concept that I talk about when
approaching women is how you feel inside.
The fact is that nowadays women are very sensitive to any 'lines' that
sound canned or corny. The way to meet women is to walk over and start a
normal conversation. If you've read my book, you know that I don't think it's
a good idea to give too many compliments early on. But it's fine to say "Hi, I
just wanted to tell you... you have great shoes" etc. and then start talking.
The key is, do something NORMAL. This reminds me of the movie
"Butch Cassidy And The Sundance Kid" with Paul Newman. At one point in
the movie they said "OK, so the con is that we're going straight?" Most
women have secret fantasies about running into Prince Charming at the
grocery store or Blockbuster. Women have an instant resistance to men who
try to be 'slick.' So don't do it.
Now, what's the key to being calm and normal?
The key is confidence and poise. You have to learn how to be confident
in these situations.
I was surprised to find out that most women are actually pretty nice
when you approach them. Especially if you're not acting like a stalker or a
guy who hasn't been with a woman in 10 years.

In Double Your Dating I explain how to get this confidence and what to
say when you first meet a woman. But for now, just realize that this is a
Critical Moment, and you need to learn how to handle it. If you don't get this
one handled, all the rest are irrelevant.
Bridge To #2, Getting Digits
The key to this Bridge is to learn how to be interesting and funny. In
Double Your Dating you'll read about the 'Cocky and Funny' concept that I
learned from a good friend.
This makes conversations interesting to women.
The next part is to know EXACTLY what you're going to say and
EXACTLY how you're going to say it. I say "Do you have email?" If they say
'Yes' then I treat that like a yes that they'll give it to me, and give them a
pen. Then, WHILE THEY'RE IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING I say "And go
ahead and write down your number there too." It comes across natural and
smooth. But you have to learn the words and mentally rehearse to get it
perfect. So do that.
Bridge To #3, The Date Request
The idea here is to keep up the Cocky and Funny personality that you
learned in Double Your Dating, and add the other magic ingredient: The
Friendship Frame.
When you talk to a woman about meeting for coffee or lunch etc. it's
important to say "Well, let's get together and make FRIENDS. If nothing
else, you sound like you might make a nice FRIEND." The psychology behind
this is explained in detail in my book, but the effect is stunning. Most women
can't believe that a man could actually be interested in getting to know them
as a friend. And it also causes them to say "Hmmm... I wonder if he's
attracted to me?" This works in your favor. You have to learn the words and
practice, but this will really pay off for you. Learn the Friendship Frame.
Bridge To #4, The Date
When you're preparing to meet a woman for the first 'Date' (and this
can be just for coffee, to go for a walk, watch a movie... whatever) you need
to do a few key things. You MUST be as clean as possible.

In my book I recommend washing 3 times in the shower, and using a
nice light cologne. Wear clean, comfortable clothes, etc. Brush the teeth, use
floss and mouthwash. You have to make a good impression. Most guys that
have problems at this stage are trying too hard. It's a paradox, but you have
to stay very cool and calm when you first meet a woman - and act almost
indifferent. This quality is attractive to women.
Bridge To #5: Holding Hands
I personally think that it's a good idea to hold a woman's hand for
awhile before kissing, etc. This conveys to the woman that you are a warm,
friendly person, and someone she can trust.
The interesting thing about hand holding is that men think that hand
holding means "She wants to have sex" and women think that it means "Oh,
he's a nice guy."
Once you're holding hands, it's very easy to move to kissing, etc.
Here's how:
In Double Your Dating, I talk about learning a few good 'cold reading'
methods. These can be anything from palmistry to handwriting analysis to
astrology. Women LOVE this stuff.
An important one to learn is Palmistry, as it leads to you touching her
hands! If you then learn a bit about hand massage and reflexology, you can
naturally lead into a discussion about hands and pressure points, and start
to give her a hand massage right there. When you're finished,