David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Bridges | Page 3

in the shower, and using a
nice light cologne. Wear clean, comfortable clothes, etc. Brush the teeth, use
floss and mouthwash. You have to make a good impression. Most guys that
have problems at this stage are trying too hard. It's a paradox, but you have
to stay very cool and calm when you first meet a woman - and act almost
indifferent. This quality is attractive to women.
Bridge To #5: Holding Hands
I personally think that it's a good idea to hold a woman's hand for
awhile before kissing, etc. This conveys to the woman that you are a warm,
friendly person, and someone she can trust.
The interesting thing about hand holding is that men think that hand
holding means "She wants to have sex" and women think that it means "Oh,
he's a nice guy."
Once you're holding hands, it's very easy to move to kissing, etc.
Here's how:
In Double Your Dating, I talk about learning a few good 'cold reading'
methods. These can be anything from palmistry to handwriting analysis to
astrology. Women LOVE this stuff.
An important one to learn is Palmistry, as it leads to you touching her
hands! If you then learn a bit about hand massage and reflexology, you can
naturally lead into a discussion about hands and pressure points, and start
to give her a hand massage right there. When you're finished, you just keep
holding her hand. It works so perfectly.
I've shown this to several of my buddies - and they LOVE IT. It is so
smooth and nice for a woman.
Bridge To #6: Kissing
I've written a lot about this one, but I'm going to reprint here what I
say on my web page:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be
kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a
comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of
it.

If she smiles and appears to like what she's hearing, I then reach back
over and start stroking it again while talking to her. If she likes this, I know
that she would be receptive to a kiss.
Now, this may sound simple, but I've done something very
sophisticated from the WOMAN'S perspective. After years of research and
experience, I've learned that women like to have the idea that they are IN
CONTROL of the situation.
By using The Kiss Test I've been kind and complimentary, but by being
very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to.
You can imagine that if you've just finished holding her hand for awhile,
this is almost natural!
I think that the car is a great place for a first kiss...
Bridge To #7: Being Alone With Her
This Bridge is all about trust.
If she trusts you, and feels safe, she'll be OK with the idea of being
alone with you. Do you see how everything fits together? Each step flows
smoothly into the next.
Here's what I do:
As I mentioned in Double Your Dating, it's important to not seem too
eager for anything. I like to have a woman meet me at my place, then leave
from there to go for coffee. Then, when we come back, I look at my watch
and say "Well... OK, you can come in for a minute."
This is great, because it kind of makes it seem like she was trying to
talk me into it! Because I don't seem too anxious, she'll usually say "OK."
Other ways you can do this are by telling her that you want her to meet
your dog (no not that one) or telling her about something you want to show
her (again, not that - save that for later). If you talked about your art
collection at coffee, then it's natural for her to come see it. Remember, the
key here is TRUST. So be trustworthy.
Bridge To #8: Making Out

Once you're inside (your place or hers) you need to Bridge into making
out. Just because a woman kisses you, it doesn't mean that she's hot for
your bod right then and there. You have to help her work up to that.
Men are on/off switches, and women are volume knobs. So work on this
one slowly and with patience.
Here's how:
The first thing to do is NOTHING. You need to take 10 or 15 minutes
and sit back and be only interested in talking. As a matter of fact, sit far
away from her, or lean back if you're next to her. This sends the message
that you're not just horning in for the kill. (Hey, you can actually have an
interesting conversation if you want, it's OK).
Next, when you've both shared a nice laugh together, and the energy is
good, reach back over and give her another kiss.
This time, whisper in her ear that she smells really good. Then start to
smell her neck and shoulders. This one is a time bomb!
If you can learn to just smell a woman's neck and shoulders for about
10 minutes WITHOUT KISSING HER you will blow her mind. Women LOVE