David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Attraction Isnt a Choice Summary | Page 3

to you at the VERY BEGINNING, then you are taking a
HUGE risk. Namely, that you're going to invest all of your time, effort,
energy, emotions, gifts, money, and life pursuing someone who may
or may not ever feel the same way about you.
If, on the other hand, you master the art of making women feel that
GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION using only your personality, then you won't
be GAMBLING as much when it comes to women and relationships.
NOTE: My experience is that many of the things that us guys do to
try to attract a woman, i.e. buying gifts, doing favors, etc. actually
lead to the woman finding us UN-attractive, because she sees these as
needy behaviors performed by a weak man that hide ulterior motives.
I think that long-term relationships are great. I just don't like the
idea of investing a lot of time, energy, and money if I have no idea
whether a girl even likes me! No thanks.
How much better it is to know how to make a woman feel that
excitement, tension, and attraction at the VERY BEGINNING. This way
you're not out-of-control, wondering where you stand. Then, if you
decide that this is someone that you'd like to spend more time
with in the future, you can start doing more traditional "relationship"
things (if YOU choose).
A relationship based on two people enjoying each other's company
and personalities is FAR stronger, in my opinion, than one based on
gifts, money and favors.

Take a moment right now, and think about the difference between
ATTRACTION and COMMITMENT. Think about the things that make you
feel ATTRACTED to a woman, and then think about the things that
make you feel COMMITTED to a woman.
Big difference, isn't it?
Here's one for you. Do nice women stay with jerks because they
feel committed to them? In most cases I'd doubt it. It's because the
jerk is ATTRACTIVE in one way or another.
What I've done is take the parts of the 'jerk' personality... the parts
that are ATTRACTIVE to women, and use just those without the
ABUSIVE components.
Teasing, busting her balls, creating tension, playing hard to get, not
giving her what she wants, being unpredictable, being cocky and funny
are all ways to push the "attraction buttons" without being abusive or
mean.
Then, it's up to YOU whether you'd like to buy gifts, pay for dinners,
and do favors. When gifts and favors are presented in the context of
being an already attractive, cocky and funny man, then they take on a
whole new meaning. They lead to a stronger feeling of devotion and
commitment...
WARNING: Don't turn into a wuss just because you decide that you
really like a girl. Don't start calling her 47 times a day and saying
"Ohh, baby I really miss you."
Use gifts, favors, and romance like a spice... not the main dish.
So remember the difference between “Attraction” and
“Commitment”… and keep doing the things that make her feel
attraction!
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