David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating - Attraction Isnt a Choice Summary | Page 2

for physical reasons alone).
3) Attraction does have a "logic" all of its own, complete with
techniques you can learn in order to increase it.
4) When a woman feels ATTRACTION to a man, she will do things that
seem to be completely illogical, irrational, and even against her best
interests in order to be with the man who is the object of her desires.

If you're a guy that is stuck in the idea that a woman "should" feel
attracted to a "nice guy", then your first step is to open your eyes, and
take a look around at some of the OBVIOUS patterns that are hidden
right in PLAIN SIGHT around you.
1) There are a lot of guys who are average looking, average height,
average income, etc. who have ABOVE average success with women.
2) The "nicest" guys aren't usually the ones that women are attracted
to.
3) There are a lot of men who are truly "bad boys" who get FAR more
than their share of women.
4) We humans, for the most part, are not in control of our "attraction
mechanisms"... in other words, when we are attracted to someone
else, it takes control of us and there's NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT
IT.
I have a simple exercise that I'd like you to try right now:
Take your computer mouse and turn it 180 degrees clockwise. Turn
it so the end closes to you is now furthest from you, and the furthest
part is closest.
Now try to use the mouse to move the pointer around on your
screen.
At first, it doesn't make any sense... it's backwards and upside
down. But as you play with it a bit, you start to get used to it, and you
can move around pretty quickly.
Now try using it with it turned only 90 degrees one way or another.
This is much harder. But with some practice you can do it.
Learning to make women feel attraction for you is much the same
way. At first it DOESN'T SEEM TO MAKE ANY SENSE AT ALL. But the
more you practice, the more you start to see that even though it isn't
logical IT DOES HAVE A PATTERN AND A METHODOLOGY TO IT.
As a matter of fact, I've realized that once you learn this set of
behaviors that "pushes the attraction button" inside of women, you will
start to see that women actually KNOW when they are dealing with a

man that understands this principle. Women instantly respond to men
who "get it" and they INSTANTLY REJECT MEN WHO DON'T.
Just like moving an upside down mouse you must learn to do things
that don't come "naturally" to you.
But once you learn them you'll have a skill that will create amazing
results in your life.
Here are a few ideas to practice and review on a regular basis:
1) Use the magic formula of COCKY+FUNNY. Arrogance by itself is a
turn-off to women. But arrogant humor that MAKES THEM LAUGH is a
HUGE turn on. Make jokes about her trying to pick up on you, tease
her about something she is insecure about, make fun of others... just
make sure it's making her laugh.
2) Give her a hard time and tease her about something as soon as you
possibly can. Now, I'm not talking about being MEAN here. I'm talking
about teasing a woman just like you might do with a family member.
This communicates total confidence and comfort in your own skin.
3) Hold yourself in a way that communicates confidence, leadership,
and dominance. Use good posture, move very slowly and confidently.
Don't laugh or smile very often.
4) Don't do "nice guy" stuff like buying drinks, giving compliments
about beauty, or acting needy. In the beginning you must keep your
cool and act as if YOU are the catch and she is the lucky one.
You must remember that attractive women are being approached all
the time by guys who are kissing up to them. You must be something
different. You must be entertaining but not goofy, confident but not so
much that you appear insecure, and most importantly totally in control
of yourself and the situation.
I hope you're starting to understand better why I always say
"Attraction Isn't A Choice."

The Difference Between “Attraction” and
“Commitment”
If you've read my book "Double Your Dating", then there's a good
chance that somewhere along the way you've asked yourself the
question: "Does this guy think that long-term relationships are
healthy?"
To set the record books straight, I want to say "Yes, I think that
long-term relationships are wonderful, healthy, and can be a great
source of joy and happiness, Amen." I've had many of them myself,
and have enjoyed some great times as a result.
But here's the distinction: If you don't learn how to a woman feel
ATTRACTED