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that you created.

Now some of you probably know what I mean by matching and mirroring. For\

those of you who don’t, I will explain more a bit further down. But for those of
you that do know, here is a word of warning:

Matching and mirroring is a rapport buil der, but there are ways and means of
doing this that go way beyond just mechanically copying people’s body\

movements or physiology.

For those that haven’t yet got a clue what I am talking about yet her\
e is a

Key Point:

People like people that are like themselves

So as you think of people that you get on with really well, you will start to think
of lots of things that you have in common. Perhaps you have common
experiences, you like the same movies or music. You might even start
noticing that you use the same language, talk the same way and have the
same sorts of mannerisms and gestures.

Now you might also say that all of this changes when you are with differ\
ent
sets of friends…and you would be right. The fact is we act differentl\
y with
different types of people. For those of you that don’t agree, think about this
just for a second –

- Do you act exactly the same way with your parents as you do your frie\
nds?

- Would you act the same with a police officer as you would a lover?

If you do, let me know where and when the court case is.

What happens is that on an unconscious level you will start to act a lit\
tle more
like the people you are close to and they will do the same with you.

Here is a little piece of homework for you.

Just go somewhere where there are people in conversation with each other,
maybe a bar or restaurant and just wa tch people that are getting on with each
other, or not as the case may be.

You will notice that people in rapport with each other will have a natural
rhythm or flow that matches each other. Just knowing this means you have\
a
powerful, nonverbal connection strategy. Just matching key aspects of the
woman you want to meet allows you to put her at ease right from the start. If
you match and mirror the right things you will instantly build rapport a\
nd
develop a great connection.

I guess your next question would be, “what should I be matching and
mirroring?” If I were totally merc enary I would tell you to buy my
special
Making Instant Connections
report. But I want to be good to you guys…so
here it is:

• Angle of head
• Spinal tilt
• Gestures and movement
(but only when appropriate)
• Breathing
• Posture

• Tone, volume and pace of
speaking
• Facial expressions
• Any words that they use
often
• Blinking

The word of warning:

When I say this to people they go off and start doing it really mechanically.
That is not the point. What I would point out is that this is a naturally occurring
quirk of human nature and you need to do this naturally. A more in depth
version of this and exercises that are designed to get you to do this ea\
sily and
naturally appear on my
Make Instant Connections Report. But this is enough
for you to have a go at just gently building rapport with other people. Please
go out and have a go just noticing the different feelings you get when you
establish rapport with people.

An easy way of noticing the difference is when you are with some friends\

where you have a natural rapport just break it in the middle of a conversation
and notice the difference in how you feel inside a well as how it change\
s the
quality of the conversation.

Now here is the really clever bit. Let us assume that you have practiced\

building rapport, you have noticed what happens when you build rapport a\
nd
you already know that after you hav e rapport people will naturally follow your
gestures as much as you are following theirs. Now I know that for some y\
ou
will want to
have a look at the report and go and practice a little first, but let’s
just assumed you have done this for the purposes of the illustration bel\
ow.

Just imagine the situation where you are walking up to the woman you have
selected to talk to. As