how to make anyone fall in love with you

Page iiiHow to Make Anyone Fall in Love with YouLeil LowndesCONTEMPORARY BOOKSA TRIBUNE COMPANYPage ivLibrary of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication DataLowndes, Leil. How to make anyone fall in love with you / Leil Lowndes. p. cm.Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 0-8092-3211-1 1. Love. 2. Man-woman relationships. 3. Intimacy (Psychology) 4. Sexual excitement. I. Title. HQ801.L69 1996 306.7—dc20 96-14502 CIP

Jacket design by Scott RattrayInterior design by Mary LockwoodExcerpt from Obsession:Copyright © 1995 by Debra McCarthy-Anderson and Carol Bruce-Thomas. All rights reserved.Reproduced with the permission of the publisher, Harlequin Books S.A.Copyright © 1996 by Leil LowndesAll rights reservedPublished by Contemporary BooksAn imprint of NTC/Contemporary Publishing CompanyTwo Prudential Plaza, Chicago, Illinois 60601-6790Manufactured in the United States of AmericaInternational Standard Book Number: 0-8092-3211-110 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1Page vTo fulfill the promise of the title, How toMake Anyone Fall in Love with You offers85 techniques based on scientific studies intothe nature of romantic love.Page viiCONTENTS1 Anyone? Yes, Practically Anyone1Science "Discovers" Sex2How More Research Was Compiled4How the Techniques Were Developed5How I Tested the Techniques72 What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six Elements9

What Makes People Fall in Love? The Six ElementsI. First Impressions9II. Similar Character, Complementary Needs10III. Equity11IV. Ego12V. Early-Date Gender-Menders13VI. Rx for Sex143 The Physical Side of Falling in Love17"Why Do My Insides Go All Funny?"17"Does Somebody Have to Be Pea-Brained to Fall in Love with Me?"17"Why Do We Fall in Love with One Person and Not Another?"18"How Can These Little Things Start Love?"19Page viii4 Where Are All the Good Men and Women?23Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places235 Does Love at First Sight Exist?25Part One: First Impressions You Never Get a SecondChance at Love at First Sight6 How to Make a Dynamite First Impression29First Impressions Last Forever29

First Impressions Last Forever29Be Ready for Love—Always!30Stay Psychologically "Fit to Kill"327 How to Ignite Love at First Sight35How Much Eye Contact Does It Take to Imitate Love?37How to Get Sexy "Bedroom Eyes"39How to Awaken Primal, Unsettling, Sexy Feelings in Your Quarry41Naughty Eyes Are So Nice428 Your First Approach45The Gentle Art of Pickup (Not for Men Only)45Hunters, Make the First Move . . . Fast46Huntresses, Make the Fast Move . . . First49First Moves That Work for Women509 Your First Body Language53Let Your Body Do the Talking53When You Are Quarry56The Word That Can Save Your Relationship57"But This Is So Basic!"6010 Your First Conversation61Conversation Is Making Beautiful Music Together61Conversation Is Like Making Love62

Conversation Is Like Making Love62Conversation Is Like Selling62How to Know What Topics Turn Your Quarry On65Page ixHow to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already in Love68Get Even Closer by Giving the Gift of Intimacy70Make Your Lifestyle "Fit" Your Quarry's Lovemap7111 Your First Date75The Game Begins in Earnest75"How Soon Should I Make My Move?"76"Playing Hard to Get—Should I, or Shouldn't I?"77The Scientifically Proved Best First Date79Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies80Plant the Seeds of Similarity82First-Date Restaurant Smarts82Hunters, Some Spit and Polish for Your P's and Q's84Huntresses, Forgive His Foibles85First-Date Duds87"I Haven't Got a Thing to Wear"87Part Two: Similar Character, Complementary Needs IWant a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!

Want a Lover Just Like Dear Old Me (Well, Almost)!12 "It's You and Me, Baby, Alone Against This Mad, MadWorld"93Similarity . . . and a Touch of Difference (Just a Touch)9413 How to Establish Subconscious Similarity97How to Instantly Make Your Quarry Feel, "Why, We're Just Alike!"97Words to Give Your Quarry "That Family Feeling"98"We Even Speak the Same (Body) Language"10114 How to Establish Conscious Similarity105The Three Crucial Conscious Similarities105Let's Talk About Our Relationship—Not!11315 How to Establish Complementary Needs117"I Got Just What You Need, Baby"117Page xPart Three: Ego How Do You Love Me? Let Me Countthe Ways16 The World Revolves Around You, My Quarry123Ego Massage Is a Highly Skilled Craft12417 Step One: Silent Praise127

Step One: Silent PraiseLet Your Body Do the Praising12718 Step Two: Empathy129"I Can Identify with That!"129Lovers Share Intimate Details131Lovers Have Private Jokes13319 Step Three: Admiration137"Oh Honey, You Did an Absolutely Superb Job Slicing TheseMushrooms"13720 Step Four: The Implied Compliment141"You're Much Too Young to Remember This, But . . ."141The Bull's-Eye Booster: "I Just Love What You Like About Yourself"14221 Step Five: The Big Guns145"You Are the Most Fascinating Person I've Ever Met"145"What Does Giving a Killer Compliment Do for Me?"14622 Fine-Tuning the Ego Machine149"Wait a Minute. Does Everybody Like Compliments?"149Knee-Jerk Praise: "What You Just Did Was Fabulous"150Have the First Laugh151Lovers Give Each Other Pet Names152When Your Quarry Praises You153

Page xi23 Keeping the Love Coals Warm155"I Love the Way You Wrinkle Your Nose When You Laugh"155Part Four: Equity The WIIFM Principle of Love (What'sin It for Me?)24 Everybody's Got a Market Value, Baby161Why Is