Youth and Sex | Page 4

a simple sentiment that
will, a few years later, blossom out into the real passion which may fix a life's destiny.
The mental and moral changes that occur during the early years of adolescence call for
help and sympathy of an even higher order than do the changes in physical structure and
function. Some of these changes, such as shyness and reticence, may be the cause of
considerable suffering to the girl and a perplexity to her elders, but on the whole they are
comparatively easy of comprehension, and are more likely to elicit sympathy and
kindness than blame. It is far otherwise with such changes as unseemly laughter, rough
manners, and a nameless difference in the girl's manner when in the presence of the other
sex. A girl who is usually quiet, modest, and sensible in her behaviour may suddenly
become boisterous and self-asserting, there is a great deal of giggling, and altogether a
disagreeable transformation which too frequently involves the girl in trouble with her
mother or other guardian, and is very frequently harshly judged by the child herself. In
proportion as self-discipline has been taught and self-control acquired, these outward
manifestations are less marked, but in the case of the great majority of girls there are, at
any rate, impulses having their origin in the yet immature and misunderstood sex impulse
which cause the young woman herself annoyance and worry although she is as far from
understanding their origin as her elders may be. The remedies for these troubles are
various. First in order of time and in importance comes a habit of self-control and
self-discipline that ought to be coeval with conscious life. Fathers and mothers are
themselves to blame if their girl lapses from good behaviour when they have not
inculcated ideals of obedience, duty, and self-discipline from babyhood. It seems such a
little thing to let the child have its run of the cake-basket and the sweet-box; it is in the
eyes of many parents so unimportant whether the little one goes to bed at the appointed
time or ten minutes later; they argue that it can make no difference to her welfare in life
or to her eternal destiny whether her obedience is prompt and cheerful or grudging and
imperfect. One might as well argue that the proper planting of a seed, its regular watering,
and the influences of sun and wind make no difference to the life of a tree. We have to

bear carefully in mind that those who sow an act reap a habit, who sow a habit reap a
character, who sow a character reap a destiny both in this world and in that which is
eternal. It is mere selfishness, unconscious, no doubt, but none the less fatal, when
parents to suit their own convenience omit to inculcate obedience, self-restraint, habits of
order and unselfishness in their children. Youth is the time when the soul is apt to be
shaken by sorrow's power and when stormy passions rage. The tiny rill starting from the
mountainside can be readily deflected east or west, but the majestic river hastening to the
sea is beyond all such arbitrary directions. So it is with the human being: the character
and habit are directed easily in infancy, with difficulty during childhood, but they are
well-nigh impossible of direction by the time adolescence is established. Those fathers
and mothers who desire to have happiness and peace in connection with their adolescent
boys and girls must take the trouble to direct them aright during the plastic years of
infancy and childhood. All natural instincts implanted in us by Him who knew what was
in the heart of man are in themselves right and good, but the exercise of these instincts
may be entirely wrong in time or in degree. The sexual instinct, the affinity of boy to girl,
the love of adult man and woman, are right and holy when exercised aright, and it is the
result of "spoiling" when these good and noble instincts are wrongly exercised. All who
love their country, all who love their fellow men, and all who desire that the kingdom of
God should come, must surely do everything that is in their power to awaken the fathers
and mothers of the land to a sense of their heavy responsibility and of their high privilege.
In this we are entirely separated from and higher than the rest of the animal creation, in
that on us lies the duty not only of calling into life a new generation of human beings, but
also the still higher duty, the still greater privilege and the wider responsibility of
bringing up those children to be themselves the worthy parents of the future, the
supporters of their country's dignity, and joyful citizens of the household of