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Mother's Claims--The Mother Still in Middle
Life--The Mother of Greater Years--The Mother of Mothers--She
Gathered the Orphans Together and Poured Out Her Tenderness Upon
Them. Page 207.
Love.

A Great Passion, Therefore not one to Trifle and Be Familiar With--Its
Tyranny--Feelings and Actions of a Young Man in Love--Utter
Uselessness for Business of a Young Man During the Uncertain Period
Between Desire and Possession--Love Rules The Universe--How The
Sages Look upon Love--It Is But the Flash in the Broad Pan of True
Happiness--Shakspeare, Tennyson, Overbury, Mrs. Sigourney, South,
Dryden, Plautus, Goethe, Burton, Valerius Maximus, Rochefoucauld,
Addison. Hazlitt and Emerson--"The Wooden God's Remorse"--"Love
Me Little Love Me Long"--The Poet Petrarch's Strange Behavior--"If
She Do not Care for Me, What Care I How Fair She Be!" --LaFontaine,
Lyttleton, Schiller, Ruffini, Ducoeur, DeStael, Colton, Dudevant,
Balzac, Moore, Beecher, Victor Hugo, Longfellow, Limayrac, Howe,
Deluzy and Jane Porter--"Solomon was So Seduced, and He Had a
Very Good Wit"--Alexander Smith--Great Space Given to Love in all
the Books of the World--Some Things to Remember While Viewing
the Passion in Others. Page 219.
Courtship.
The Young Man Finds Himself in Love and "Begins to Think"--He
Wonders That He Never Before Thought of Money--Difference
Between a Wharf-Rat and a Man--Difference Between a Married Man
and an Old Bachelor Who Has Always Been Afraid of the
Expense--Everything Natural in Marriage--Be "Square" with Your
Sweetheart--The Circus-Poster--The Quarry of Truth--Do not "Talk
Big" and Love Little--Courtship and Marriage not a Matter of "Want to
or Don't Want to," but a Strenuous Case of "Got to"--Marriage Like
Life Insurance--Closing Hints. Page 234.
Marriage.
Sample of a "Swell Wedding"--Undignified Aspects of a Swell
Wedding Where It Takes Every Cent a Man Can Earn, Beg and
Borrow--A Farce, and an Example to Shun--Let us Have Some
Manhood and Womanhood at a Critical Point, the Start in Real
Life--To Be a Man Is to Be Married--Nature's Artful Treatment of
Human Beings--Folly of Men Who Throw Away Their Happiness--Be
Inquisitive Before Marriage--Be Blind Thereafter--The Law Approves

and Encourages the Married State--The Married Man Is of the Greater
Importance in the Nation--A Thing to Be Kept in Mind--Married Men
Healthier than Bachelors--Married Women Healthier than Maids--A
Married Man Has a Greater Excess of Comforts than of Troubles as
Compared with the Comforts and Troubles of the Bachelor. Page 246.
Wedded Life.
A Practical Chapter on Life as It Is Actually Lived by a Man and
Woman Who Have a Fair Chance in the World--A Home With a
Young Wife in It no Place for Other Men, no Matter How Dear they
May Be to the Husband--Give the Wife a Chance--Kindness--Do not
Be Afraid of Honoring Your Wife any Too Much--The Wife's Proper
Cares--A Reply to the Common Form of Attack on the Principle that
Marriage Is Both Natural and Expedient--McFarland--A Man's Happy
Experience as a Husband--Judgment, Vanity, Selfishness and
Trepidation--Good for Evil--Astonishing Changes in a Man's
Needs--The Fireside of a Man Who Is Trying to Do Right--His
Profound Gratitude at the Accuracy of His Taste in Earlier
Years--Death, or Worse than Death--Three Studies--Apology for a
Somewhat Uncharitable Reply to a Selfish Argument. Page 256
Bachelors.
A Chapter on Bachelors Apt to Diverge into a Dissertation on
Solitude--Arguments which the Bachelor Applies to the Question of
Marriage--Being the Soul of Selfishness He Is Unwilling to Believe
Happiness In Marriage Possible until He Shall Himself Have Embarked
in Matrimony--Manner in Which He Usually Proclaims That all Men
Who Marry Are Fools--Single Life Unavoidable with Some Men--A
Mere Spectator of Other Men's Fortunes--The One Grand Result of
Single Life--Wearing Out One Set of Faculties by Forty--Losing
Control of the Other Set by Disuse--The Way a Bachelor Judges a
Young Girl--His Somewhat Sordid Ideas--Events Have Distorted His
Nature--A Bachelor's Great opportunities for Getting
Book-Knowledge--Good out of Evil--Mistaken Ideas about Bachelors,
which the Ladies are Apt to Entertain--Foolish Diatribes against
Women--The Lack of Knowledge which Those Diatribes Betray--The

Front-Porch View of Girlhood Esteemed to be the whole of Woman's
Nature! Page 270.
Sickness.
Health, Even with Memory, cannot conceive the Feelings of
Disease--The Invalid's Sad Weakness--The King cannot Hire a man to
Have the Typhoid Fever for Him--The Strong man Felled to His
Couch--Chances for Philosophy--The Chances Usually Thrown Away
with the Medicine Bottles--The Bachelor Sick--His Body now as Full
of the need of Woman's attention as It was of Brags that He would
Have none of Her--Let Us do something, by not attempting Everything
in the way of Reformation. Page 281.
Sorrow.
The Tallest mountains, although They Gather the Heaviest Clouds
about Their Solemn Sides, Yet Look Through Cloudless Skies up
Toward the Sun--Effect of Deep Sorrow on the Appearance of Beauties
of Nature--We Deprecate Grief, and yet We Rail at Its Short
Duration--The Stricken Wife--The Young man who Loves and Is
Rejected--His Dilemma--His Erroneous and Immature Decision that He
would Love But